var title = 'Psychology and Mental Health Forum Psychology Feed';
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		var time = 'Tue, 26 Aug 2025 00:57:53 -0400';

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		data[0]['title'] = 'I Just Want to have Successful Sex';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_just_want_to_have_successful_sex_c-3_u-292788_b-8685.html';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_just_want_to_have_successful_sex_c-3_u-292788_b-8685.html';
		data[0]['username'] = 'lost_confused21';
		data[0]['blog_id'] = '8685';
		data[0]['blog_message'] = 'My Fiance won't stop masturbating.  We've been together for a year and a half.  In that time, we've had sex at least twice a week, average.  And he has been able to finish only a handful of times.  I have begged him to stop.  Tried to explain to him how awful I feel when I can't make him finish.  Nothing works.  Today, we had a big fight about it.  Because he told me, yet again, he hasn't stopped.  He tried to compare the fact that I cannot finish during sex to him not being able to.  He makes me finish every time we attempt to have sex, it isn't vaginally but it still makes us both feel good.  He was mad at me for not having the ability to finish while he is inside me.  Something I can't help, something out of my control.  He thinks that is the same despite the fact that this wouldn't even be an issue if he would just stop masturbating.  Claims that if I can't, its okay that he doesn't even though it makes me feel awful knowing he is just going to do it later.  We are getting married, planning our life together.  What if we can't have children because we can't have sex?  What if we end up resenting each other because of this?  Am I wrong or crazy to think that something has to be done?';
		data[0]['blog_time'] = 'Sat, 18 Jul 2015 22:00:47 -0400';
		

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		data[1]['title'] = '17 year old attracted to men in their 50s';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/17_year_old_attracted_to_men_in_their_50s_c-3_u-91118_b-3094.html';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/17_year_old_attracted_to_men_in_their_50s_c-3_u-91118_b-3094.html';
		data[1]['username'] = 'Cindy6';
		data[1]['blog_id'] = '3094';
		data[1]['blog_message'] = 'As a 17 year old girl i have always been attracted to older men. For as long as i can remember I have been both sexually and emotionally attracted to men in their 40s, 50s and in some cases 60s. The first time i can remember having these feelings is during primary school when i was around 9 or 10 and it didn&#039;t feel right.<br /><br />I am aware of various theories about &#039;daddy issues&#039; and i know this is not the case with me as I have a great relationship with my father...so what is it???<br /><br />I have no idea where these urges come from or why they happen. I have tried talking to my mum about it but she just thinks it&#039;s a stupid phase i&#039;m going through and my friends just think i&#039;ll end up a gold digger. This is not the case at all as I am attracted to older men from all different walks of life. <br /><br />When my friends talk about fit guys at college i just pretend i feel the same when really they repulse me but i&#039;m scared to say who i&#039;m attracted to.<br /><br />Please help me, it seems like no one can at the moment. I just need to know why i am like this.<br /><br />Thank you.';
		data[1]['blog_time'] = 'Thu, 19 Jul 2012 09:08:22 -0400';
		

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		data[2]['title'] = 'Can't say no to sex';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/can%CA%B9t_say_no_to_sex_c-3_u-272158_b-7813.html';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/can%CA%B9t_say_no_to_sex_c-3_u-272158_b-7813.html';
		data[2]['username'] = 'Megzz';
		data[2]['blog_id'] = '7813';
		data[2]['blog_message'] = 'Hello! I&#039;m a 19- year old female and I can&#039;t seem to say no to sex. I don&#039;t feel the urge to constantly have sex but if a guy asks me to have sex I will always say yes. I beat myself up for this so much and I&#039;m not sure if it is a sexual addiction and I don&#039;t know how to treat it. <br />Please comment you opinions!';
		data[2]['blog_time'] = 'Thu, 25 Dec 2014 01:21:10 -0500';
		

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		data[3]['title'] = 'I feel like its my fault because im not good enough';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_feel_like_its_my_fault_because_im_not_good_enough_c-3_u-269792_b-7698.html';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_feel_like_its_my_fault_because_im_not_good_enough_c-3_u-269792_b-7698.html';
		data[3]['username'] = 'rhianne-reneau';
		data[3]['blog_id'] = '7698';
		data[3]['blog_message'] = 'Okay so I caught my fiance using my email to find girls on Craigslist o guess to have sex with. I was just going through my email and happen to see it i know it wasnt me because that was the night he was using my phone while i stayed at my mom&#039;s house amd some of the things he was messaging to these girls was really upsetting I confronted him about it at first he insisted he didnt remember ever doing it Then he said he might have had a moment of weakness. Then he kept insisting on how We changed in a good way because while he did that he said he realized he loves me amd I&#039;m the only girl in his life and that he only wants me. And. What really bother me is that this happened not even a week after he proposed and altogether We been together almost three years and We have a baby on the way in less than two months. Before all this I would find porn on his phone Where he would watch it or download videos or pictures and it really makes me feel like crap. I mean I know I&#039;m nothing really to look at I put on thirty pounds while being pregnant and sometimes it&#039;s like he don&#039;t want to touch me like he is completely discusted by me and it&#039;s always like he wants some super skinny girl that he can wrap his arMs around and have sex with all night I mean We don&#039;t even have sex like We used to it seems like he is watching the TVs more than he is even looking at me I can&#039;t really lose weight right now being pregnant and all. I don&#039;t have the pretty face or the perky boobs that he wants I just wish I could magically change how I look completely. I Love him so much I would spend all the money in the world to be the completely sexy girl he wants. D&#039;:';
		data[3]['blog_time'] = 'Mon, 24 Nov 2014 23:58:15 -0500';
		

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		data[4]['title'] = 'Running Out of Options, Time to Try Catharsis';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/running_out_of_options_time_to_try_catharsis_c-3_u-248903_b-5872.html';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/running_out_of_options_time_to_try_catharsis_c-3_u-248903_b-5872.html';
		data[4]['username'] = 'ThanatosRising';
		data[4]['blog_id'] = '5872';
		data[4]['blog_message'] = 'I was diagnosed with PTSD after a car accident in 2010 (age 25), and was shocked when repressed memories from the past started surfacing without warning. Along with the scenes from the car accident replaying without end, images of an abusive relationship I had been in for three years started playing, a sexual assault by a boyfriend at 19 that I blocked out, a rape I had experienced at age 18 that I COMPLETELY blocked out, emotional and mental abuse from age 11 at the hand of a boyfriend of my mother&#039;s, and various bullying events I had sustained from around age 8 through 14. It was entirely overwhelming; for about two months after the accident I spent most of every day in bed, having nightmares when sleeping, waking up screaming thinking whatever I was dreaming about was happening, then having no perception of time when I was awake, being continually trapped in recurring flashbacks that seemed to last for hours when they were really just 10-15 minutes. I sustained serious lumbar spine and nerve injuries that required heavy medication (50mcg fentanyl patches every 3 days, 200mg neurontin daily for nerve pain, 10mg klonopin for panic attacks, 30-50mg oxycodone daily for breakthrough pain, 100-200 mg orphenadrine daily for muscle spasm and opiate potentiation). I could barely muster the energy to get out of bed to go to the bathroom and shower because of the pain, so I stopped eating, lost nearly 25 pounds within a few weeks (I am a 5&#039;5&quot; female and was an active and relatively muscle-toned 130 lbs., so I became underweight and lost a majority of my muscle tone), so coworkers I ran into once when I had to go to my office to sign some insurance paperwork started rumors I was abusing drugs due to my frail and noticeably gaunt appearance. I withdrew almost entirely from my social circle with the exception of a few friends who were so worried abouy my sudden changes they forced me to keep in contact with them. After nearly two full years of weekly psychotherapy, many hurdles, setbacks,  tears, angry and violent outbursts, losing my job, and weaning off all the pain medication, I finally got my PTSD symptoms under control in 2012. During this time I was also pursuing my undergraduate degree in psychology, which obviously delayed my studies as I dealt with my illness and injuries. Since then, I have had a very exaggerated startle response that never went away (loud noises or someone approaching me from behind seriously frightens me, causing an immediate panic response). I&#039;ve had difficulty with controlling or moderating anger, and sometimes respond angrily way out of proportion to the irritant or situation. Social anxiety that I always had got somewhat worse, and depression has been a nearly constant battle also. However, I was able to find a new, better job, and maintain my GPA at 3.85.<br /><br />Things were going relatively smoothly until this October, where I suddenly experienced a PTSD retriggering event. I did not consciously recognize or want to acknowledge it at first, instead convincing myself that the eerily familiar feelings were just imaginations and nothing serious, until it suddenly dawned on me one day what was happening, about three weeks after the initial retrigger. I began addressing it with my psychologist and the psychiatrist I started seeing right before the retrigger for my depression that was getting out of control in the summer. It just caught me so off guard and has made me feel so powerless again. I keep thinking that no matter how far I get in time from these events, no matter how well I do, these horrible feelings are going to arise at any time and ruin my happiness. I feel that I never truly have felt happiness, and that now I may never know what it is like. It&#039;s caused me such horrible thoughts, the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of giving up on everything, the thoughts of withdrawing into myself, the paranoia that everyone can see through me and thinks I&#039;m pathetic and weak for not being able to just get over it....<br /> <br /> <a href="https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/running_out_of_options_time_to_try_catharsis_c-3_u-248903_b-5872.html" class="postlink-local">[ Continued ]</a>';
		data[4]['blog_time'] = 'Wed, 20 Nov 2013 09:22:08 -0500';