var title = 'Psychology and Mental Health Forum Psychology Feed';
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		var time = 'Fri, 26 Sep 2025 16:23:05 -0400';

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		data[0]['title'] = 'Intrusive thought I mastorbated to but I feel ashamed';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/intrusive_thought_i_mastorbated_to_but_i_feel_ashamed_c-3_u-136655_b-4297.html';
		data[0]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/intrusive_thought_i_mastorbated_to_but_i_feel_ashamed_c-3_u-136655_b-4297.html';
		data[0]['username'] = 'Ollie319';
		data[0]['blog_id'] = '4297';
		data[0]['blog_message'] = 'I'm 20 and during school break one night decided to masturbate to some porn , and I came across this video and the pornstar looked alot like my mom , the actress had the same hair style my mom always wears and the pornstar was giving oral i like watching oral but she looked to much like my mom so I fast forward to where the porn star is riding the male pornstar and this reminded me of when I was a kid and my mom and her boyfriend would lock themselves in a room for hours and I thought to my self when I was masturbating that this is probably what they were doing , so I imagined the porn stars doing it in the room and this turned me on, but then I thought that it was gross cause that's what my mom and her boyfriend were doing , so I focused more on the porn star lady cause I just wanted to finish and go to bed , but now I feel like I jacked off to my mom and her boyfriend because It did arouse me a little but I tried finishing to the porn star , I feel sick , I hate that it turned me and that I didn't stop masturbating , I feel horrible , I was never attracted to my mom and I mastorbated that day because I was horny not cause I wanted to jack off to my mom but that video ****** it up , now I feel ashamed , this is serious , please HELP!';
		data[0]['blog_time'] = 'Wed, 06 Mar 2013 23:32:19 -0500';
		

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		data[1]['title'] = 'If You're Angry';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/if_you%CA%B9re_angry_c-3_u-86399_b-2624.html';
		data[1]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/if_you%CA%B9re_angry_c-3_u-86399_b-2624.html';
		data[1]['username'] = 'Medikus';
		data[1]['blog_id'] = '2624';
		data[1]['blog_message'] = 'Angry, too, need the rules. If you would like to express their outrage, we must carefully choose the words and expressions that you are going to use it. Words can inflict a very strong emotional wound. Always remember that. And even in anger. Even if you are very angry, you should try to remain calm. Then you will be easier to formulate their claims. Do not focus on the process itself. Do not forget in the heat of anger, what you&#039;re angry, why are you angry, what goals you want to achieve, expressing their outrage.<br />You must also show that you are not satisfied with the personality of man, and his specific act or situation, in which he has put you. You should not insult the man. No need to remember all his faults, which are not relevant to the subject of your anger. Moreover, it is impossible to point to some external features of the man.<br />It is not advisable to show anger towards his boss. You do not reach the wrath of their goals. But you can lose a job.<br />If you are the boss, then you can afford to be angry at his negligent subordinates. But it is necessary to comply with all regulations. We must not go beyond appearances.<br />Anger can have different degrees. But the highest degree of your anger should be used very rarely.';
		data[1]['blog_time'] = 'Tue, 01 May 2012 11:29:58 -0400';
		

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		data[2]['title'] = 'Very Vivid Freakish Nightmare in Detail With Weird Leg Pain?';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/very_vivid_freakish_nightmare_in_detail_with_weird_leg_pain%CA%94_c-3_u-133671_b-4091.html';
		data[2]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/very_vivid_freakish_nightmare_in_detail_with_weird_leg_pain%CA%94_c-3_u-133671_b-4091.html';
		data[2]['username'] = 'wendyjean_';
		data[2]['blog_id'] = '4091';
		data[2]['blog_message'] = 'Ok, so I&#039;ve been up for about a half an hour since this &quot;nightmare&quot; that I had. I don&#039;t remember the beginning but, it was short, extremely vivid and has me a little shooken up. <img src="https://www.psychforums.com/images/smilies/icon_sad.gif" alt=":(" title="Sad" /><br />Ok, so I was at my ex boyfriends house. His mom had this extremely amazing camera which she let me use to take some quick pictures of. So I proceed to the back door, snap a picture of the sky from the back porch. Then I end up towards the end of the back yard by the fence while holding the camera on an angle. I take a picture of the backyard and the back of his house and review the picture. There, I see a little girl, in a purple dress with curly long brown hair bending over picking a dandelion. I look away from the camera in awe checking to make sure I&#039;m not seeing anything, but low and behold I am, I just captured a ghost on camera. She was freakishly see through but yet so bold. I then run around to the front of the house avoiding her area. I run in the house and show the picture to my ex boyfriend telling him &quot;do you see anything wrong in this picture!?&quot; He then says, no. Then I zoom in on her, and he says &quot;wow that&#039;s insane&quot; and calls his mom over. I then show her, and it begins to get darker and darker in the house while she just has a blank stare on her face. She runs upstairs disappearing saying, &quot;someone turn some lights on in this house&quot; meanwhile, I literally cannot breathe, I am literally having a panic attack in my dream as my ex boyfriend picks me up and holds me. I then awaken from this physically terrifying &quot;dream&quot; with my mouth open, and I&#039;m stuck. Literally stuck for twenty minutes in a daze and I cannot move. After I actually come to my senses I&#039;m scared, terrified and in a lot of pain. As of right now, about an hour after my dream, my legs hurt really bad. Like they got ran over or something. A very dull pain shooting from my hip down to my big toe. I have never EVER experienced a &quot;dream&quot; like this before, and if anyone has any insight, or opinion as to why I woke up in pain from this, it would be appreciated. I&#039;m honestly still in shock from how vivid this little girl was. I&#039;m too afraid to go back to bed and rest peacefully.';
		data[2]['blog_time'] = 'Thu, 31 Jan 2013 01:17:07 -0500';
		

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		data[3]['title'] = 'Loving relationship has been destroyed by a PD, help required';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/loving_relationship_has_been_destroyed_by_a_pd_help_required_c-3_u-116128_b-3884.html';
		data[3]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/loving_relationship_has_been_destroyed_by_a_pd_help_required_c-3_u-116128_b-3884.html';
		data[3]['username'] = 'Devastated-husband';
		data[3]['blog_id'] = '3884';
		data[3]['blog_message'] = '*Trigger* This is a long story but I will try to be as brief as possible. I am very new to forums and anything I say is without judgement of any form of disorder, as I am all to aware of the impact it has on all parties and how the sufferer is impacted. Please do not take any offence as I&#039;m still trying to understand, accept and work with its far reaching concsecuences and would ask all posters to remain non-judgementa. Thank you.<br /><br />My wife and I have been in a relationship for 16years, married for 4 and have 3 year old Daughter together.<br /><br />Most of the revelations from the events of the past two months have made me realise that in hindsight my wonderful true love has suffered from more than the diagnosed general anxiety and depression that has been interwoven in our lives for all this time.<br /><br />Two months ago my mother in-law lost her on/off 10 year battle with cancer. We were all left devastated, but my wife who has always been considered the most emotional member of the family showed little grief, despite being greatly consumed for the entire decade of this fight.<br /><br />Two days after her passing, my wife had a memorial tattoo and immediately confessed she had fantasised over the artist and made sexual advances towards him. My wife has always despised adultery and we had talked openly about friends who had committed this most &quot;despicable&quot; of acts. My wife has also always been very timid around strangers, sexually unadventurous and incredibly attached to myself.  I put this down to the trauma and suggested that some form of therapy for her grief, along with open discussion would help and that I would support her all the way.<br /><br />The situation became worse on the day of her mothers funeral, as the following day she confessed she had been awake all night sending naked pictures of herself to men she had never met.  She made in her own words &quot; throw away &quot; comments that she would be better off dead, how a massive hole was consuming her and how she was unable to love anyone or inflict her &quot;issues&quot; on me anymore.  <br /><br />Her family although unaware of the full facts all agreed she should see her GP immediately, who subsequently referred her directly to A&amp;E.  The Doctors fortunately could see the full picture and my wife&#039;s reluctance to open up, or even admit she had a problem.  They talked to both her sister and I and after discussions at board level, generally agreed she suffered from a personality disorder and offered immediate therapy and support, this has sadly been refused and ignored by my wife.<br /><br />During this period our daughter was also suffering from pneumonia and my wife was unable to fully cope with this and embarked on offering herself for NSA sex via the Internet, sleeping with 6 unknown men (at least) in a period of weeks, all of the encounters potentially dangerous given the unknown quantity of the individuals and the environments the acts were taking place. <br /><br />My wife has always suffered from angry outbursts, issues of social acceptance, &#039;living in and blaming the past&#039;, fear of abandonment and an inabilty to focus on positive aspects of life.  Its also important to teveak that she was beaten by her father as a child, along with her sister and mother and her fathers family also had a history of sexual abuse, although my wife claims she was never assaulted in this manner.<br /><br />Whilst this has left me devastated and whilst an exact diagnosis is not possible without therapy and dialogue from my wife, I know the most caring and loving person I fell for all those years ago, now has some form of explanation as to why she feels like this, as do I for the roller coaster relationship we have experienced.<br /><br />As a footnote, not only does my wife not accept their is a problem with her actions or health, she has also started drinking heavily and vilifies me to anybody that she is able to convince, normally those who have infrequent contact with her or myself and are unaware of the full picture . These individuals are now validating...<br /> <br /> <a href="https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/loving_relationship_has_been_destroyed_by_a_pd_help_required_c-3_u-116128_b-3884.html" class="postlink-local">[ Continued ]</a>';
		data[3]['blog_time'] = 'Fri, 28 Dec 2012 17:59:48 -0500';
		

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		data[4]['title'] = 'I need help helping my depressed boyfriend!!';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_need_help_helping_my_depressed_boyfriend%C7%83%C7%83_c-3_u-107275_b-3764.html';
		data[4]['url'] = 'https://www.psychforums.com/blog/Psychology/i_need_help_helping_my_depressed_boyfriend%C7%83%C7%83_c-3_u-107275_b-3764.html';
		data[4]['username'] = 'kendoll17';
		data[4]['blog_id'] = '3764';
		data[4]['blog_message'] = 'So My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 2 years. We are both 20 years old. Up until a few months ago he was perfect fun and outgoing. He practically bowed down and kissed my feet and did anything for me. i dont mean to sound concieted, but thats how it was! Semi-recently he has changed. It started when we moved into the city in a house with 3 other gays. He just became more stand-off ish, and didnt want to cuddle or spend too much time with me. I ignored it thinking it was coming from stress about money and such, but it got worse. He eventually seemed like he was only happy when he wasnt with me. Rarely had sex or kissed me or even acted like i was around. This all was very hard for me, but i love him so i stuck around. Everything i did or said could make him mad and start a fight. This made me try harder to be sweet and cute with him and he didnt want any part of that. About two months ago he broke up with me saying he hates the house and the housemates and he just wasnt happy, but we talked and i told him if he really doesnt want to be with me then he could go and id be okay, but i didnt want him to do that without being 100% SURE. so we ended up working it out and he did it again two days later and the same thing happened. Then a month or so went by and he told me he wasnt happy, and he didnt know why. he recognizes that he has a career and a boyfriend who loves him more than anything and he loves me the same. I told him that he needed to leave because i couldnt emotionally handle it anymore. He got a room somewhere else and still isnt happy and we are seeing each other and taking it day by day. Today he told me he hates his life and has nobody but me. I love him and want to help but i dont know how. His father disowned him 2 years ago when he told him he was gay and they used to be really close and now he doesnt see or talk to him at all. His mother isnt there for him either. He feels alone and miserable and i try to tell him to keep his head up. He needs help, i know but is there anything i should be doing? can someone help me understand becasue i take it personally when i know that i shouldnt...He lashes out at me over stupid things then later tells me hes sorry and that he wishes id just leave because he treates me like $#%^ but he says he loves me so much and doesnt understand why i put up with it...i just dont know what to do! id love to talk to someone maybe on the phone?';
		data[4]['blog_time'] = 'Thu, 06 Dec 2012 18:40:12 -0500';