Im at that point; its about confidence to build inner rapport!
Im at that point; IVe been asking general people out to coffee for a while now! Ive got women friends that I get physically close to and flirt with me! But they are married! Im kind a; ; one of the guys! We are buddies! " friends" thats the best way to describe it! And I ask them out and we go to coffee and its great, because I get practice asking them out! And I ask out guy friends and we talk about women and drums and success business stuff!
Its now changing; Im getting confident that I'm starting to spill over into more chance taking and flirting with women!
I'm beginning to take interest in women that have shown attraction toward me! Im starting to respond to them, look at them, talk to them, smile up close; get a cooky and offer it to them! Laugh!
It's a game! It's not bad! Its necessary! Its about the inner dance with women! Chase, cat mouse stuff!
When my confidence is clearer; I will ask them out quickly and dance with them at a more secure location!
Im just practicing! Im dancing with women! If you make mistakes in this dance; you go home! But theirs always another day! And its all practice!
The goal from this experience is; begin to ask out the women Im sexually attracted to and get experiences asking these type of women out!
Im in the middle ground of getting used to them! Bossing them, they're bossing me around! Getting used to them! Bantering I guess! Thats a good word for it! Taking chances with them! Making a fool out of myself from lack of experience! And it sucks; but thats fine with me! Keep doing this until it gets easier to say hello to them and ask them out to coffee!
The main goal is to ask out the girls Im sexually attracted to; to coffee! This is the main goal!
The other goal; What do I want!
I know I want sex from women Im sexually attracted to; Ive figured this out! Bling!
The point is; If I do not know what I want from these women, why would I ask them out! If I know what I want; I will ask them out! I must decide what Im doing with them!
Do I want to have a sexual relationship; friends with benefits, romantic love relationships, boy friend girlfriend! Lover, married, soulmate! What do I want! Casual dating!
What do I want to do with them; talk, sex, foes ball, mountain biking; reading a discussing a good book; video gaming! What?! What do I want! General dating!
Im have a real hard time with " what do I want" If I knew what I wanted; I would know why Im asking them out and I have a clear energy toward that goal!
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You would be surprised how much energy can go in a strait line when you know what you want from someone! If the girl is super hot and stuck up; and you know what you want; you'll barrel through her tests, and ask her out! If you like her!
My problem is; I don't know if I like someone; but Im definitely attracted to them! And this adds confusion! And this confusion is added because of lack of experiences!
The goal of experience ends neediness! confidence means Ive worked through my fears and Im positive and hopeful!