The goal is to work through the past! Generally the past is worked through with family and friends and self when it occurs! This creates a smooth transition from the actual event to the releasing of the event! The subject is gone through, talked through, worked through, possibly within a few hours after the event! In traumatized people, many things are never touched; never looked at!
Therefore, much problem is the family system! The system is used with other social human events! The point is; you need a family to work through problems ! Unfortunately, for some,for us, this was a place where predators within the family system could stab us at are most vulnerable moments! and worse, rape, torture, abandonment! Relational aggression, sexual aggression, physical aggression! economic aggression! and many other forms of social deflation and psychological decapitation!
The point is; the family system becomes a death shop! A place where Im being pulled apart into pieces and decimated!
When one survives this; if they can; they cant speak or write or express or connect to anything; possibly, ever again!
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Im learning now to slowly work through the past! I go into these 2 or 3 month cave runs! I hide in my apartment and natural processing occurs! its strange because Im relying on 12 step groups and writing and online media for posting and blogging and many other things! I dont have allot of friends to share my stuff with! Im not connected at that level!
The point is, the past slowly leaves and then Im able to become anything I want! and what Im finding! one becomes free! This freedom looks much like healthy children who naturally break away from their mothers and fathers at the right time in their development!
Im now experiencing some of this! its a wonderful thing; However, it will take time! Its one memory at a time! the other problem is; when one works through a memory and comes to the present! you dont want to be all alone; this pushes me back into more trauma; re traumatized and isolated! So, I learn the balance with 12 step groups and a deep relationship with God!