Ive found that Im spending most of my time preparing to do things. I do A lot of writing and speaking at 12 step meetings; Im preparing myself for dealing with real people; strengthening myself for the outside world.
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Heres an example; Im ashamed because I have no money; In reality; Im ashamed because I came from a shamed based childhood. So; Im preparing myself around others; telling them what Im going to do when Im alone with people and its one on one; Im scared right now to be apart of one on one.
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Im like a 12 year old going to 13. I need a group of people; subordinates to help me. I dont need anything from them accept to be their; and to push me in the right direction when I attempt to chicken out.
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So; Im doing allot of writing on this site because Im not ready to have personal relationships to talk to them; I dont feel like Im good enough or match up; Im terrorized that Ill be judged on ever superficial situation; money, money, money, status portion; I have non; nothing!
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So; Im daunted and scared of what could happen if I get rejected by people because I have no money or didnt go to the right school. Im scared of being pushed under the rug or shunned!
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The problem is; their are good people in the world; I have to seek them out; work through the bad ones to get to the good ones; some effort is involved. Im scared to put out that effect; it might show that Im not serious. That Im just a talker and not taking any action to back up my words. Right now; the fear scare level is way beyond my courage level in this area. And Im most scared of " what if" What will I really get for all my trouble.
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Heres the reality; if I dont do anything and dont learn to go out and get what I want; I will never know. I will have nothing; and that motivates me more then just accepting hatred or revenge for society. By having a negative attitude; I gain nothing!
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I want success; ultimately; However, theirs a high price; and im learning about that high price right now.
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Its going to cost me; I have to face the terrorizing fears; thats what its going to cost me! That means getting vulnerable around others; thats what it means; I could get de moralized, dis respected, miss understood; hated, spit on; discarded and humiliated; I could could myself into situations where Im trampled under foot and torn to pieces.
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However, does not this define the problem; the contrast; it certainly defines what I dont want; and if I know what I dont want; I know what I do want.
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Answer; Sales; for now; I learn sales and confront people; learn to talk to them face to face; practice sales techniques. Tell people some personal things Im ashamed of; learn to turn it around in my favor. Learn to stand up in front of them and debate if I have to. Learn that Im not going to die regardless. The idea is; with enough experiences talking to people; Im going to work through the ones that dont count and get to the ones that represent my tribe.