I first get my life together, then; if think about revenge! I can ponder such illusions!
Its very easy; I get robbed or hurt or taken advantage of; I assume if I get back what the robber stole, I will feel better! Ill be satisfied! What if I cant find the robber and get back what they stole; What do I do?
I go to secondary places for the recovery process! I process out the revenge based situation with the help of others;, I become whole again! once whole; I can then decide if I want to think about revenge! chances are, I would have devalued the thoughts of robbers and revenge long ago! for I know that when I think of such people; the robber; I loose precious time! therefore, the robber has stolen my goods and my thinking! Who is to stop this disaster; who? the robber!; The robber will come back and fix everything! I think not!
I am left to my own pursuit of reason! Meaning; it is left to me to seek outside help for my revenge and resentments!
The world is a hard place! An unknown! You don't know whats going to happen to you or how you will respond!
ITs better to understand that seeking help for my problems; processing the problem away from the original trouble is the best solution!
If I get shot; do I go back to the shooter to fix the damage; no, I get whisked away to the hospital and get fixed by doctors! The point! I must get away from the shooters in the world! Its true they shot me and it may seem standard to get revenge on them and to think about it all the time and plot what Im going to do to them; it doesn't work!
Its better to go to counseling and learn how to process my thoughts! Get them out and start over new!