I believe that all things a mother and father do are in line with the Universe to help a child survive! Its all been plotted out; its all biology!
One area; a hidden area; especially for men; a mothers blessing!
Im not sure when this starts! It's a mothers way of saying she loves her son and is watching his energy grow until he has enough energy and dreams and goals to leave mother! He love his mom, but he's starting to love the girl next door more; or at-least he's getting curious about her and he wants to spend more time with the girl next door!
At this point; age 12, 11, 14, 16! Im not sure what age it is; it's a pre letting go! The mother will give her child a blessing of love as he then detaches from mother and off he goes naturally, to the girl next door to play!
The boy has all kinds of energy and loves his mom, but its time to go!
His mother must give a blessing; something that says she is so proud of her son up to this point, and he is capable of leaving; even if its just next door to start! and its obvious! It's a blessing! and gives love to the energy he has already built up inside!! it's a blessing, a smooth passage! it comes from mom; moms acceptance of the boy! thats what it's saying! he has done a good job and is on the right track! she is playing the roll of guardian light brigade! she is the guardian angle! and she will center him, and bounce him of of the snow banks, keeping him inline down that trail that one day he will begin to seek; and soon, he will out run mom, and not need her! she will be behind him, she wont be able to keep up anymore! he will be running solo, down that snow trail with exhilaration and happiness! all because she gave her blessing, many blessings down the trail of development! I think? Not just one!
I had no such experience! My experience was the opposite! And I was pushed back into a weak state of trauma and terror! I did not receive any blessing from my mother! Nothing! I received the horror of a psychopath! And it had its effects! Emptiness and cold gnashing of teeth! I had to leave the area and go somewhere else; I was not wanted! I was being destroyed!
I'm now searching for that blessing! That I can let go of the fictional representations I have of a merrier mother'd in my mind!
I will take it to God!
For a boy; it's the permission your mother gives you to let her go, and run into another women's arms!
It's a right of passage from a mother to her son! its about age 13 I think! Its not always obvious, but its crucial for a boys development into independent manhood!