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Hi, all! I finally figured out a few years ago that I am multiple, having suffered yet to some degree succeeded in life with dissociative identity disorder. Like many with DID, there had been areas of and moments in my life that were confusing and dysfunctional but I could never figure out why.

I had periodic depressions and my memory was often poor. But I didn't experience the hallmarks of DID like losing chunks of time. I spent a small fortune on books, seminars, and therapists. I looked into the possibility of having DID many times, but the clues gave me no certainty and no therapist helped me focus on the potential root cause of my problems. Blocked awareness and inaccessible memories are how DID works. A blessing in childhood, problematic later.

Several years ago, trauma memories started coming to me in images and flashbacks, and alters "woke up" and communicated with me. It was easy to admit that I had DID -- I had always felt a bit like a counterfeit -- but really hard to fathom how the "good" parents I remembered were randomly monstrous abusers of me as a child, psychologically, physically and sexually.

I will never, ever, ever understand how a person can hurt a small, innocent, utterly defenseless child, especially their own child, and not once but hundreds of time. It seems contrary to every human instinct. But it happened. And though it wasn't necessary, I sought and discovered external proof it happened. Now I work in therapy and in life to reverse the damage these warped people caused.

In 2011 I began communicating with a teen with DID and, when it looked like he would become homeless, I hired him, knowing it would be a challenge, as a live-in personal assistant for cooking, errands and driving. We quickly began to rely on and support each other the way healthy families do, so a couple years later I adopted him. Really, I adopted them. Over the years we've learned how to attach to another person, safely and in a family context. The best revenge is living well.
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Jack, Johnny and dog painting (my avatar)

Permanent Linkby Johnny-Jack on Fri Sep 16, 2011 3:10 am

**potentially triggering**
My avatar is an actual painting of Jack at age 10. I've searched for but never found a photograph of my alter personality Jack and one may not exist. However, the avatar is a reduced digital photo of a 3ft x 5ft composition of Jack, painted from memory by my father a year or so after Jack punched him in the face, fought back, ran away that night, thus ending the abuse, then shortly went inside for decades.

Jack's eye squint is characteristic of him, though here it also helps him aim the gun. My father was a gun collector. The pistol is no toy. It is the relative size of an adult weapon, which Jack holds ready for his off-screen assailant. He protects the untroubled boy on his back, the host John (aka Johnny), whose face is not shown, indeed, cannot be shown for it would be identical to Jack's.

My father may or may not have consciously known what he was painting but the identities and the meaning of the painting are quite clear to me. Everyone close to the family who has seen the painting says the boy is me. Others have confirmed that even he knew it turned out to be his son. Only I know the boy with the gun is Jack and the child on the ground was his second favorite son, John (Johnny). It is the largest painting ever done by our father, who knew quite well that the two boys were different, though in the same body. He never named this painting. Although it's not clear in this reduced version, the dog, with human-like eyes, stares back in harsh judgment at the painter of the scene, and so at the viewer.

(April 28, 2012) Two friends who know my entire story now, who knew me since we were age 2 or 3 and who knew my parents, got an overwhelming response to viewing the painting. The boys' bodies are so close, the recumbent Johnny seems to blend into Jack. One held her hand over the dogs lower face and said the eyes looked human and accusing.

I have mixed feelings about displaying a painting by my abuser, but it is the only known visual record of Jack, the painting itself is not at fault, it is absolutely his likeness and a documentation of his battle won, and I retain it to honor Jack, who no longer sleeps.
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Re: Jack, Johnny and dog painting (my avatar)

Permanent Linkby Johnny-Jack on Wed Dec 31, 2014 3:05 am

My mother had undiagnosed DID with at least 8 alters I can distinguish. My father was aware to some degree that she was multiple. Not surprising, since he was had a less complex dissociative disorder but perhaps DID. So I believe he instinctively understood that his son was multiple, due to his and his wife's abuse. The painting now hangs in my home. The clothes are what I typically wore at that age but the red boots, quite prominent in this painting, had something to do with his own abuse. I'm sure of this but don't know yet how I know. I don't recall speaking to him about this painting. He died two years after this was painted.
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Re: Jack, Johnny and dog painting (my avatar)

Permanent Linkby Johnny-Jack on Fri Jul 17, 2015 2:35 am

I had to take the photo down since it contained a gun and that can be scary or triggering to some visitors. I need to remove that from the photo and repost.
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Re: Jack, Johnny and dog painting (my avatar)

Permanent Linkby Johnny-Jack on Sun Jul 22, 2018 6:28 pm

Psychforums lost or cancelled the ability to add one's own avatar a couple years ago and still hasn't reinstated member-uploaded avatars (I don't think). Until they do, we added one of the avator choices. This hurricane represents Xavi, our tornado or whirlwind alter. We've always been drawn to cyclones, tornados, hurricanes and the like, well before we knew specifically about Xavi as an alter (and a non-human one at that).
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Re: Jack, Johnny and dog painting (my avatar)

Permanent Linkby Snaga on Sun Jul 22, 2018 10:12 pm

It had to do with changing over to a secure (https) site. Eventually, we'll be upgrading to a newer version forum software, and perhaps then the ability will be added back, although it will be restricted to images hosted on sites that are also secured. For those of us that use carefully selected avatars to express ourselves, it is a bit of a personal inconvenience, many of us miss what we come to think of as our trademarks.

In the meantime, don't forget you can place a small (50 pixels high, but considerably wider) image in your sig line. However remember that the BBcode for the image does count against the character limit for the sig line, so doing that and listing all the members of the system might be a challenge.
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