Whether or not two people are HAPPY TOGETHER is what determines whether theit relationship is healthy or unhealthy. If you disagree with that, then you don't know anything about relationships. Period.

NOTHING is healthy or unhealthy for EVERY relationship of any sort. It all depends on the needs and desires of THE INDIVIDUALS involved, and whether they are being met sufficiently.

Period.

If something works for both partners and makes them both happy, then it's good for the relationship and it's HEALTHY. No matter what it is. Period.

If you think that everyone who says they don't believe in evil is running and/or hiding from something, then you are an idiot.

Some of us just don't believe in evil, and are even willing and able to provide objective facts to support that opinion, if anyone is interested in hearing them and not just making retarded assumptions.

People who believe in evil are the ones running away. Running away from the harsh reality that nothing in this world suits everyone.

Yes, parental love IS appropriate in a romantic relationship. In fact it's mandatory. You're suppose to feel and provide EVERY kind of love for the one you call your "life partner".

Relationships were much happier and more successful before everyone forgot that.

I've come a long way since I first joined PF. For starters, I was in complete denial about having alters - so much denial it put Egypt out of business - & now there's been at least two integrations & five of us have found a way to communicate with each other better. I even started co-hosting with Helen without any professional help!

I came here for numerous reasons that were all self-help related. I think I've been side-tracked recently by taking things too personally that are said on here, getting too involved with other members (feuding & covertly idealizing/devaluing them) & just generally straying away from my goal to help myself. To feel better & be healthier with or without professional help, among other people who share the same goal & some of my pain.

Of course if I need/want to vent in a way that's appropriate for me to do so here, I will. But it's time I shift my MAIN focus back to what's best for myself instead of everything that ticks me off. Which means you'll be seeing less of my ramblings.

Whatever pathetic delusion helps you refuse responsibility for yourself, I suppose.

No one is being victimized by BEING BORN.

It's sad that a 22-year-old has to say this to you: Grow the f**k up. This is a new low that only a real, miserable, insane, naive brat can reach.