by Kissmekillme524 » Sat Mar 14, 2015 7:29 pm
Maybe this isn't the right place for this, but I need help. I'm a 25 year old housewife. My husband is the sweetest, kindest man I've ever met, and I love him more than anything, but I'm just not being fulfilled sexually. My only other long term relationship was with a man who had rougher sexual tendencies, and introduced me to bondage and adventurous sex. I don't know if I'd be okay with full-on BDSM, and I don't think I'm exactly into voyeurism, but I like having sex outdoors, like in the backyard, or the car. Against a window with the blinds open. I love being held down, pushed against the wall, and bent over. I'm a biter, scratcher, and hair-puller, and I wish my husband would do those things to me. But he's never tried them, and I can't seem to interest him in trying them--especially the things where there's a possibility of being caught. His friend stayed over one night, and I had to beg him to have sex--with the door locked and my face buried in a pillow! Like I said, I love him, and I enjoy our sex. I don't want it rough all the time. But there are times when I do want it rough, or to be held down, and I don't know how to get him to cooperate. I've talked to him about it both in and out of the bedroom, and he acts like he'd be okay with it, but we never really do anything about it. What kills me is that he has a foot fetish, and though it can be tiring and annoying, I give him foot jobs. Maybe it's wrong, but I've asked my ex for advice on how to get my husband interested in rougher play, but his advice didn't help--he said I should take the lead and show my husband. My ex is a dom, and I'm a submissive person, and I don't know how to be dominating. I've tried porn--watching, reading, and fantasizing about it--and it helps get me off, but it doesn't help my desire to experience it myself. How can I get my husband to try rougher or more adventurous sex without driving him away?