by lilyfairy » Wed Jan 20, 2021 9:03 am
I don't know that BPD or autism are "cool", but I do think they've been buzz words in the media and are probably more well known- or emerging that way.
There is a cycle of rejection, fear and avoiding too- each feeds one another.
I found I had to find the right doctors and therapists to help me. There were a lot who were totally useless to me, while others were willing to explore "there's something not right here" further with me. It was a long time before anyone even used the term "personality disorder".
With online personality tests- they are really interesting, but do take them with a grain of salt. We all have certain personality traits, but those traits don't necessarily make someone disordered. I've found most professionals I've dealt with have not used quizzes or questionnaires for anything other than assessing my levels of anxiety or depression- every other assessment they've made of me has been through more general verbal questioning and observing how I react- they've built up the picture as they've gotten to know me rather than "your questionnaire said x, so x HAS to be the only possible answer". The answer turned out to be a lot more complex than just "you have AvPD". If we'd gone with what my quiz results said way back when I was exploring those a lot, because I was needing some kind of validation- which I think sounds like where you are at too, my path to where I am now would have looked different.
Hugs and keep talking.
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