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Postby LachrymosePhoenix » Mon Jul 10, 2017 4:26 am

Do you have trouble understanding sarcasm, metaphors, or common idioms? What types of soxial interactions do you find particularly confusing or frustrating?

I find that social situations become more uncomfortable based on how many people are in the vicinity. I generally have no idea if I am well liked or not. Can you relate?
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Re: Sarcasm

Postby caughtinafray » Sat Aug 05, 2017 6:54 pm

Sarcasm, not really, but metaphors and other subtle figures of speech, yes. A well known autism spectrum trait is taking what others say at face value. And I agree about the number of people in the vicinity being tailored to anxiety, IMO it's because more people within earshot means more people to potentially notice if you have an awkward moment.
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Postby WhatsMyDxAgain » Sat Aug 12, 2017 7:02 pm

caughtinafray wrote:Sarcasm, not really, but metaphors and other subtle figures of speech, yes. A well known autism spectrum trait is taking what others say at face value. And I agree about the number of people in the vicinity being tailored to anxiety, IMO it's because more people within earshot means more people to potentially notice if you have an awkward moment.


I have to agree with the part about taking things at face value. I take things sooooo literally. And, yes, the bigger the group the more anxious I get because not only are they witness to my social awkwardness, but I am paranoid that they are laughing amongst themselves about me when I leave the room.
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Re: Sarcasm

Postby leiladream » Wed Aug 16, 2017 12:00 pm

LachrymosePhoenix wrote:Do you have trouble understanding sarcasm, metaphors, or common idioms? What types of soxial interactions do you find particularly confusing or frustrating?

I find that social situations become more uncomfortable based on how many people are in the vicinity. I generally have no idea if I am well liked or not. Can you relate?

I don't usually respond to sarcasm and usually either take it literally or ignore it. Sometimes I can sense the person doesn't mean what they are saying, but I don't understand what they're trying to say. It's confusing. Metaphors are really weird so I tend to ask people to explain what it means, if I am comfortable with that person. Otherwise I'll totally ignore it. I also have a lot of common idioms memorized, from going to school or TV. Although when I was avoiding social situations for several years, they did sound really weird to me in conversations.

I find people who know that I am autistic, and they know that I don't get jokes or sarcasm but do it anyway, to make me really angry. I think it's rude and I start thinking they're full of crap. I am uncomfortable around groups too, unless I can ignore everyone. I tend to talk to the person next to me, if they seem ok for me to talk to. I don't think about whether people like me or not until I am alone again. That's when I start to worry whether I made a good impression on people or not. Not sure if I relate, but just wanted to share how it's like for me.
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Re: Sarcasm

Postby BlueNailedIcebear » Mon Oct 09, 2017 6:41 pm

LachrymosePhoenix wrote:Do you have trouble understanding sarcasm, metaphors, or common idioms? What types of soxial interactions do you find particularly confusing or frustrating?

I find that social situations become more uncomfortable based on how many people are in the vicinity. I generally have no idea if I am well liked or not. Can you relate?


Yea, I often just laugh things off if my friends do too, and I often take things literally, or at least doubt if they meant it literally or not. I heard that's pretty normal for people with autism so at least we're not alone!
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Re: Sarcasm

Postby serpand » Wed Nov 08, 2017 1:06 am

I can't maintain emotional engagement in a conversation for long, but I enjoy listening to people. When I am talking the listener will quickly lose interest. It was hard to realize I can't contribute much to the group in conversation. still I feel loved and I do enjoy being around people. I just get shutdown if people around talk a lot and eventually I get really tired. This is not good because then I disconnect and I lose my initiative and can't decide to leave.i get stuck in the moment and stop moving, like a statue, and my mind completely blurred.

Also if I feel attracted to a girl caos settles in, I can't be funny or spontaneous. I overthink everything and of course transmit "complications" signals. In most occasions where I did engaged all the caos disappears and I feel fine. Only thing is that I feel attached and is hard to understand what is the best way to manage the relationship.
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Re: Sarcasm

Postby MrMars » Sat Dec 02, 2017 5:51 pm

I used to struggle with detechting sarcasm a lot but over the past few years ive trained myself to pick up on cues. It still doesnt make conversation any easier, esp when someone is sarcastic like 90% of the time
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Re: Sarcasm

Postby jordan51 » Fri Jan 12, 2018 1:27 am

I don't have autism, but I can give advice. Best thing you can do is memorize cues and watch for them when you suspect someone is being sarcastic. Some common ones I do are raising my eyebrows, lowering my eyelids, and tilting my head down. Sometimes I squint one of my eyes. You can also ask your close friends if they can give you information on how to pick up their particular cues.

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I don't have autism, but I can give advice. Best thing you can do is memorize cues and watch for them when you suspect someone is being sarcastic. Some common ones I do are raising my eyebrows, lowering my eyelids, and tilting my head down. Sometimes I squint one of my eyes. You can also ask your close friends if they can give you information on how to pick up their particular cues.
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Re: Sarcasm

Postby ogr » Mon Jan 15, 2018 3:41 pm

I have to keep asking, sarcasm?

Example, my mum will come down in 20mins and say thanks for doing the kitchen - As I did I ask, sarcasm? she will say yes or no, if I forgot say a plate, it's sarcasm, if I didn't wipe the sides down it's sarcasm. But to me,I did the kitchen and it's very clean. And if it's up to my mums standered, she will say no.
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Re: Sarcasm

Postby Audrey1 » Tue Jan 16, 2018 4:37 am

Sometimes I have trouble figuring out if someone is serious or joking. I’ve gotten better at it as I’ve gotten older, but I still have problems.
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