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bein told you talk too much or make a big deal out of things

Postby DamagedGoods4013 » Sun Sep 30, 2018 4:14 pm

(I know the title should say "being told" but I ran out of space.)

Have any of you ADHDers been accused of talking too much, or making a big deal out of things?
Is this common?

I get it ALL. THE. TIME. I feel like everyone wants me to act like the things that are important to me are "nothing", and that when I try to explain myself, they don't want to read or hear a long explanation, but instead want the (as I call it) "Reader's Digest Condensed version."

I've been trying to condense what I say but it's very, VERY hard.
And I feel like, by minimizing the things I find important, I am personally being minimized.

Ever felt this way?
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Re: bein told you talk too much or make a big deal out of things

Postby FrederickA » Sun Sep 30, 2018 10:39 pm

Hello DamagedGoods,
Let me preface this reply by stating: I have been diagnosed with ADHD in the past, but eventually went off the meds (the required dosage was too high and totally depleted my appetite, so it was doing more harm than good) and the symptoms have lessened over time (whether the condition has passed or I have adapted to it I do not feel qualified to say, so I'll let you be the judge of that). As such take what I say with a couple grains of salt as to how it applies in your particular case.

I do have a certain reputation for just going on and on on certain topics if allowed to keep talking (basically if the conversation is getting interesting I prefer to keep pushing deeper than change topics), so I can identify with your statement.
However, I would not consider such things "important", just interesting, and don't usually speak about any actually important things with anyone; as such, condensing my arguments is usually not a big deal.
What, if I may ask, do you mean by important? Can it be that others merely do not get how much the topic matters to you? I mean, if to them it's just a matter of "what's 1+1?", they won't really feel like they need to hear a couple paragraphs to get the full picture ;) .

"Reader's Digest Condensed version."

I just might steal that.
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Re: bein told you talk too much or make a big deal out of things

Postby DamagedGoods4013 » Mon Oct 01, 2018 1:49 pm

FrederickA wrote:What, if I may ask, do you mean by important? Can it be that others merely do not get how much the topic matters to you? I mean, if to them it's just a matter of "what's 1+1?", they won't really feel like they need to hear a couple paragraphs to get the full picture ;) .


What I mean by important are things that bother me but do not seem to bother others. For instance having to ride public transit and encountering seat hogs who will not move over and accommodate you. Or being called "fat a** b***ch" whenever I'm out somewhere, as if I didn't know I was overweight. Those are important to me, but to everyone else it's like "you're making a big deal out of nothing."
Lately one topic has been a sick kitty I recently adopted. He keeps getting infections, and I've already been to the vet 3 or 4 times in one month alone. Now he's sick again, and I'll have to bring him back for the 5th time. I love him but his constant illnesses concern me, but to everyone else he's "just a cat" and I get ye olde "you're making a big deal out of it" crap.

"Reader's Digest Condensed version."

I just might steal that.[/quote]

Help yourself. ;)
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Re: bein told you talk too much or make a big deal out of things

Postby FrederickA » Tue Oct 02, 2018 11:34 pm

Reasons for that response could be that you may be repetitive in bringing such topics up without exploring new territory, just the same-old arguments, or that you bring these up too frequently. Could also be that they quite simply do not share these worries and are none too happy to accommodate you (aka kinda being dicks), but I guess it wouldn't hurt to gauge the frequency and evolution of your dialogue lines concerning these topics, might be something there. Not trying to imply the fault is in any way yours, people just have different priorities and interests, and if those around you do not align theirs according to yours, I guess you can either do the alignment yourself and hope they open up to your world view a bit as well, or find a new group of people you can identify with a little better. Other that that I'm afraid I can't offer all that much insight :| .

On topic, what's the issue with the tiny furball?
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Re: bein told you talk too much or make a big deal out of things

Postby DamagedGoods4013 » Mon Oct 08, 2018 10:36 pm

OK thanx. :)

About my kitty - I adopted Toby (he was a former stray living outdoors) around the end of August this year. He has Feline Leukemia. This often means they have shorter lives (like 1 to 3 years). It also means because their immune systems are basically non-existent, they're prone to infections and illnesses a lot more than other kitties. It's worse than FIV, because in their cases the immune system is weakened but exists.

So, because of Toby's Leukemia (FeLV), I have to be vigilant with him. He's on several supplements and has to take meds regularly. As of this writing (October 9), he is still somewhat ill with a Upper Respiratory Infection, but is doing much better. But every time he sneezes, coughs, or vomits...basically anything out of the ordinary, I keep an eye on closely.
I should mention that prior to adopting Toby, I'd lost 2 cats earlier. One in August (Heidi) and one in November 2017 (Solomon). Both had cancer, so I am not crazy about having another "sick kitty" so to speak, but will do everything in my power to give him a good life. I am hoping and praying he will beat the odds and kick this Leukemia out of his system (70% of cats do)!
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Possible OCD or mild bipolar
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