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Why...

Postby EllaBlack » Sun Oct 20, 2019 10:14 am

...make enemies when you can make friends?

Anyone else share this sentiment?
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Re: Why...

Postby salles » Sun Oct 20, 2019 10:31 am

ok. I deleted a smart ass comment..
It is a simple question but is based on the assumption that people consciously make enemies and thrive on antagonism. That entails a world of psychology I am too foggy headed at moment to think about.
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Re: Why...

Postby justonemoreperson » Sun Oct 20, 2019 11:30 am

I've never "made enemies" on purpose. I know there's a lot of people who hate me, but it's not because I've gone out of my way to do it. Natural talent I guess.
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Re: Why...

Postby Sarandipity » Sun Oct 20, 2019 11:31 am

I'll answer this honestly. It doesn't work like this for other parts of "me" but me personally: I make enemies of people who other people avoid and placate. I do because it's a massive power trip. Seeing the shock on their face, because they failed to see me coming, underestimated me and best is when they actively try to avoid me but I don't let them. Watching someone run across a shopping centre because they see me walking in their general direction is a kick.

When younger because of the DID other parts of me would think "why did that person just run or lock themselves in a toilet for 2 hours" because they didn't know what I was doing. As long as I didn't upset their friends they didn't notice or know what I was doing. Now we're all "in communication" other parts of me see me as a problem. They isolated themselves from others out of "fear of hurting them" which is BS because I have not ever targeted their friends and it's their fault for picking pathological romantic partners, I have nothing to do with that, that is purely them and due to parental abuse and them seeing it as "love" Now it seems they want me to "sort myself out" so I'm gonna try.

It's power. Like anything though the chase is better than the "kill" but without the end result the chase is pointless. It's addictive. It's an adrenaline buzz that is different to other forms of adrenaline. And it gives a satisfaction that is like eating a delicious meal very slowly whilst you play with it and savour every mouth full. Can friends give you that? An enemy is for life.
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Re: Why...

Postby ShaolinMonk » Sun Oct 20, 2019 11:36 am

Internet = Chatbot. Bounce concepts.
IRL= Flesh and blood.
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Re: Why...

Postby Schwärmer » Sun Oct 20, 2019 11:41 am

It is interesting, because I have had people loathe me for trying to befriend me only to be rejected. Never know what to make of that.

It is difficult unless connections serve a purpose since having someone purely to talk to, or their smile, and so on is not a good enough reason. Not pointedly making enemies so much as effortlessly hurting them, and then they decide we are enemies, but that is a one-sided affliction.
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Re: Why...

Postby ShaolinMonk » Sun Oct 20, 2019 11:47 am

Not pointedly making enemies so much as effortlessly hurting them, and then they decide we are enemies, but that is a one-sided affliction.

Seems some are thin skinned.
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Re: Why...

Postby Sarandipity » Sun Oct 20, 2019 11:53 am

Schwärmer wrote:It is interesting, because I have had people loathe me for trying to befriend me only to be rejected. Never know what to make of that.

It is difficult unless connections serve a purpose since having someone purely to talk to, or their smile, and so on is not a good enough reason. Not pointedly making enemies so much as effortlessly hurting them, and then they decide we are enemies, but that is a one-sided affliction.


Doing it by accident is careless and also you're missing out on a world of fun.
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Re: Why...

Postby ShaolinMonk » Sun Oct 20, 2019 12:06 pm

Read like a parasite, you really do.
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Re: Why...

Postby saucygirl31 » Sun Oct 20, 2019 12:33 pm

i flip like a light switch on people, and some don't like the inconsistency. often I don't mean to, but i find it entertaining though and sometimes useful, so "my bad", I would have to say.

also, some ppl prob want what I have. not my problem.

-- Sun Oct 20, 2019 1:34 pm --

but I totally would rather have friends. i just take them for granted.
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