Our partner

Forgetting What's Obvious

Antisocial Personality Disorder message board, open discussion, and online support group.
Forum rules
Attention Please. You are entering the ASPD forum. Please read this carefully.

Given the unique propensities of those who are faced with the issues of ASPD, topics at times may be uncomfortable for non ASPD readers. Discussions related to violent urges are permitted here, within the context of deeper understanding of the commonalties shared by members. Indulging these urges is not what regular users here are attempting to do.

Conversations here can be triggering for those who have suffered abuse or violent encounters. Respectful questioning is welcome from non ASPD members.

For those who have no respect for either this illness or for those who are living with it, please do not enter this forum. Discrimination of Personality Disorders is not tolerated on this site.

Moderators are present here to ensure that members treat each other with dignity and respect. If topics become overly graphic or drift from having a healthy perspective, moderators will intervene.
Please feel free to contact a moderator if you have any questions or concerns.

Best Regards,
The Team

Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby cinnamoncookie » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:13 pm

Lately I've noticed a lot of things I used to dismiss as useless as they've not worked for me in the past, work. A really clear example would be taking medication regularly. I don't think it's abnormal to be unable to tell minor differences in the state of your mental health. Problem arises when they add up and solutions to any of them would make a significant difference. A healthy diet, enough exercise and sleep, medication if you need it, and so on.

Mainly I'm making this thread because I want to know how many other people experience the same. And to remind people I guess.

I'll dismiss a lot of things my psychologist says such as whether I'm drinking or not, or whether I'm taking my medication like I'm supposed to, because there's always some bigger more abstract problem I think is more important but can't put in a format that makes it clear what kind of solution it requires. Maybe at some point this was a useful or "true" way to handle things but now it's not anymore and it's become an excuse not to put effort into anything.

I've been exercising some more, taking my medication regularly and drink maybe once or twice a month and I've noticed a huge difference in my general mood. This doesn't mean I don't still have mental health problems but I'm not on the verge of doing harm all the time which I consider an improvement.

What are your experiences? What are you experiencing now, do you actually feel like you're living in the present? When's the last time you've tried making small changes, how did it work out for you?
cinnamoncookie
Consumer 5
Consumer 5
 
Posts: 178
Joined: Sun May 12, 2019 9:11 pm
Local time: Mon Oct 14, 2019 12:21 am
Blog: View Blog (0)


ADVERTISEMENT

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby ShaolinMonk » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:15 pm

do you actually feel like you're living in the present?

Where else could you possibly be?
ShaolinMonk
Consumer 6
Consumer 6
 
Posts: 417
Joined: Sun Sep 22, 2019 8:05 pm
Local time: Mon Oct 14, 2019 6:21 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby ZeroZ » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:26 pm

My experiences are the same as yours it’s a bunch of minor things all added up together. For me exercising and regular sex has more of an effect on my mood than anything else, diet is huge, I’ve been off meds for awhile and I can’t tell any difference in how I feel but I’ve had a few more ‘episodes’ drinking has a big negative effect on my mental state. I probably need meds but it is in direct conflict with my job so it’s a song and a dance.
ZeroZ
Consumer 6
Consumer 6
 
Posts: 1090
Joined: Thu May 09, 2019 4:03 pm
Local time: Sun Oct 13, 2019 5:21 pm
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby ShaolinMonk » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:27 pm

Meds for what?
ShaolinMonk
Consumer 6
Consumer 6
 
Posts: 417
Joined: Sun Sep 22, 2019 8:05 pm
Local time: Mon Oct 14, 2019 6:21 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby solemnlysworn » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:30 pm

It's easy to dismiss the advice that feels like a platitude, like in 'eat, sleep, exercise', and I do forget just how much they make a difference until I've neglected an aspect for a long time and then implement healthier habits again. I also tend to downplay the effect socialisation has on me and generally anything that forces me out of my head
Last edited by solemnlysworn on Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:33 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Hello friend
User avatar
solemnlysworn
Consumer 6
Consumer 6
 
Posts: 2773
Joined: Tue Oct 17, 2017 12:51 am
Local time: Sun Oct 13, 2019 10:21 pm
Blog: View Blog (1)

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby cinnamoncookie » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:32 pm

solemnlysworn wrote:I also tend to downplay the affect socialisation has on me and generally anything that forces me out of my head

Yeah I totally forgot about that one. Not sure if you meant it that way but, I do way better when I go out regularly and hang out with people that don't overthink things as much as I do. But when I'm feeling bad basically I feel like doing the complete opposite and barricade myself in my apartment.
cinnamoncookie
Consumer 5
Consumer 5
 
Posts: 178
Joined: Sun May 12, 2019 9:11 pm
Local time: Mon Oct 14, 2019 12:21 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby ShaolinMonk » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:36 pm

And several of this crew make fun of Incels?

Damn. Look in the mirror.
ShaolinMonk
Consumer 6
Consumer 6
 
Posts: 417
Joined: Sun Sep 22, 2019 8:05 pm
Local time: Mon Oct 14, 2019 6:21 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby solemnlysworn » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:40 pm

cinnamoncookie wrote:
solemnlysworn wrote:I also tend to downplay the affect socialisation has on me and generally anything that forces me out of my head

Yeah I totally forgot about that one. Not sure if you meant it that way but, I do way better when I go out regularly and hang out with people that don't overthink things as much as I do. But when I'm feeling bad basically I feel like doing the complete opposite and barricade myself in my apartment.


I think in my case because I don't share in the warm fuzzy belonging phenomenon that people get after spending time together and getting attached I used to confuse that for 'not needing people' but even at my worst in my late teens I was going out a few times a week and getting hammered thinking it was just to get buzzed but I could have done that in my house by myself.

There's something I like about it and that's good for me but I'm not sure how to pinpoint it.
Hello friend
User avatar
solemnlysworn
Consumer 6
Consumer 6
 
Posts: 2773
Joined: Tue Oct 17, 2017 12:51 am
Local time: Sun Oct 13, 2019 10:21 pm
Blog: View Blog (1)

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby ShaolinMonk » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:42 pm

It's cuz you are meat being fattened up and willingly, no less.
What else is to be expected?
ShaolinMonk
Consumer 6
Consumer 6
 
Posts: 417
Joined: Sun Sep 22, 2019 8:05 pm
Local time: Mon Oct 14, 2019 6:21 am
Blog: View Blog (0)

Re: Forgetting What's Obvious

Postby solemnlysworn » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:48 pm

I'm not that stoned

wtf are you going on about
Hello friend
User avatar
solemnlysworn
Consumer 6
Consumer 6
 
Posts: 2773
Joined: Tue Oct 17, 2017 12:51 am
Local time: Sun Oct 13, 2019 10:21 pm
Blog: View Blog (1)

Next

Return to Antisocial Personality Disorder Forum

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: Bing [Bot] and 117 guests