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Playing the victim

Postby Manners73 » Mon Feb 11, 2019 7:44 pm

Have you or would you ever play the victim in order to get what you want in some way or other?

I'm asking this question because I believe my colleague to have some kind of issue where he does this in order to manipulate people.

He accuses people of bullying him just if they say something he doesn't like.

He's stealth like, extremely unassuming and my manager said to me today that he's like a ghost. You don't even notice him.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Poisonchocolate » Tue Feb 12, 2019 5:56 pm

Yeah. Easiest way to do things. Easier to catch flies with an open wound than a bulging bicep.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Manners73 » Tue Feb 12, 2019 7:13 pm

I'm trying to work out whether he's just totally naive or whether Hess got some kind of PD.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Aeva117 » Tue Feb 12, 2019 11:38 pm

Oh yeah, this was my go-to as a kid. I don't know if I'd necessarily say "playing the victim", because I wasn't acting as if I was a target of anybody in particular. I'd say 50% of the emotion level was real (because obviously I hated being hit or verbally abused), but I definitely played it up.

I don't do it nearly as much as adult (because I don't have the need to), but it's still my #1 move.
RAD kid turned PD-NOS adult (which doesn't exist anymore). Basically a mix-and-match.
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