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Playing the victim

Postby Manners73 » Mon Feb 11, 2019 7:44 pm

Have you or would you ever play the victim in order to get what you want in some way or other?

I'm asking this question because I believe my colleague to have some kind of issue where he does this in order to manipulate people.

He accuses people of bullying him just if they say something he doesn't like.

He's stealth like, extremely unassuming and my manager said to me today that he's like a ghost. You don't even notice him.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Poisonchocolate » Tue Feb 12, 2019 5:56 pm

Yeah. Easiest way to do things. Easier to catch flies with an open wound than a bulging bicep.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Manners73 » Tue Feb 12, 2019 7:13 pm

I'm trying to work out whether he's just totally naive or whether Hess got some kind of PD.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Aeva117 » Tue Feb 12, 2019 11:38 pm

Oh yeah, this was my go-to as a kid. I don't know if I'd necessarily say "playing the victim", because I wasn't acting as if I was a target of anybody in particular. I'd say 50% of the emotion level was real (because obviously I hated being hit or verbally abused), but I definitely played it up.

I don't do it nearly as much as adult (because I don't have the need to), but it's still my #1 move.
RAD kid turned PD-NOS adult (which doesn't exist anymore). Basically a mix-and-match.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby theraven17 » Fri Mar 08, 2019 2:23 am

play the victim if the victim has an angle or a decent card to play. assess the situation and then develop your strategy for success.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby guts » Thu Mar 14, 2019 11:24 am

I’ve done this a plethora of times. It’s probably one of the most simplistic strategies to use, because it works on most (but not all) “regular” individuals to appeal to their emotional vulnerability and guilt-trip them into getting what you want. Flipping the situation to make it about you in a “woe is me” type of way is very easy. Anyways, it seems your colleague is evidently using this tactic.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Manners73 » Thu Mar 14, 2019 6:47 pm

He's not my colleague anymore.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Oblivion » Thu Mar 14, 2019 10:50 pm

What happened?
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Manners73 » Fri Mar 15, 2019 6:01 am

In a nutshell, I told him what I thought of him and we've been separated to opposite ends of the building.
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Re: Playing the victim

Postby Squaredonutwheels » Fri Mar 15, 2019 9:06 am

Do you still want him gone?
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