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Distress intolerance

Postby Brandon1 » Sat Feb 09, 2019 5:57 pm

I have issues with this and it seems like a lot of you do as well, so here's a thread to discuss it and how you see it's impact on your life/overall well-being.

I get bored quite often. Sometimes I get so bored that I'll steal chocolate or pop from a store, even though I feel that it's wrong to do so. To avoid feeling guilty, I convince myself that it's what I need to do at the moment in order to make myself feel better... "It's not harming anyone in any significant way and it's helping me through a difficult period." Over time, by repeating this to myself, it became easier for me. However, these sort of actions are detrimental to my progress in life.
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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby Manners73 » Sat Feb 09, 2019 6:32 pm

I used to take drugs and alcohol every day because I couldn't manage being bored.

I stopped because it was detrimental to my life.

I used to get into fights a lot for a similar reason. I used to get such a release of energy from it and I would feel so much better after. Never felt any bad feelings from it but as ive got older I understand that just attacking innocent people isn't really the right way to better myself in the long term.

I used to shoplift and thieve things because it was the way I was brought up. I just used to think I could take stuff and I didn't really care about the consiquenses. I've stollen from people who have shown me kindness as well as from shops and total strangers. I still get itchy fingers to this day but I just clench my fist and put my hands in my own pockets.

I never really cared about what I used to do but none of it was doing me any good.
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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby easiersaidthandone » Mon Feb 11, 2019 3:40 am

I don't need to convince myself of anything. I understand right and wrong from society's sense, but I don't have an internal compass that tells me what I'm doing is wrong. So to me, acceptable behavior is what I can get away with.

You feel guilty for stealing chocolate? lol.
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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby Jonna » Mon Feb 11, 2019 4:36 am

Brandon1 wrote:I have issues with this and it seems like a lot of you do as well, so here's a thread to discuss it and how you see it's impact on your life/overall well-being.

I get bored quite often. Sometimes I get so bored that I'll steal chocolate or pop from a store, even though I feel that it's wrong to do so. To avoid feeling guilty, I convince myself that it's what I need to do at the moment in order to make myself feel better... "It's not harming anyone in any significant way and it's helping me through a difficult period." Over time, by repeating this to myself, it became easier for me. However, these sort of actions are detrimental to my progress in life.


joke account or ten year old...option A, joke account
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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby Brandon1 » Mon Feb 11, 2019 4:51 pm

Jonna wrote:joke account or ten year old...option A, joke account

Mind your manners or I'll kill you.
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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby Brandon1 » Mon Feb 11, 2019 5:13 pm

easiersaidthandone wrote:You feel guilty for stealing chocolate? lol.

Yes. :|
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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby SoloZombie » Mon Feb 11, 2019 5:17 pm

That was very distressing
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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby Brandon1 » Mon Feb 11, 2019 5:23 pm

SoloZombie wrote:That was very distressing

:lol:

Couldn't make up my mind. So many options, you know? Then add in the screw ups and you get a poopshow of a post. I simplified it now anyway.

-- Mon Feb 11, 2019 12:30 pm --

I gotta use the Jonna.

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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby Manners73 » Mon Feb 11, 2019 6:46 pm

^^are you in to hard sports?
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Re: Distress intolerance

Postby solemnlysworn » Mon Feb 11, 2019 10:20 pm

It's not a feeling of distress I want to avoid but a feeling of being flatlined
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