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what to do when I cant connect to a 12 step program

Postby loriginalone » Thu Aug 16, 2018 8:10 pm

Hi,

I am a first time visitor of this forum and I am feeling totally frustrated by a life of destructive behaviors that have defined me since I was an adolescent. I am also an addict that I am sure is a symptom of my ASPD. SO here is my dilemma. I have tried for years to work a 12 step program as it is suggested and the way it is suggested and find that I cannot in any meaningful way. Primarily b/c I cannot attach and connect to others. I hate when I'm always told that I don't get connected. I have NEVER been able to form any meaningful relationship and a 12 step setting is not the exception. I'm hoping to hear from others that may experience the same dilemma as I and have perhaps found a way.
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Re: what to do when I cant connect to a 12 step program

Postby VernonJenkins » Thu Aug 16, 2018 9:05 pm

STOP yelling at me!
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Re: what to do when I cant connect to a 12 step program

Postby ArchCannon » Thu Aug 16, 2018 11:15 pm

What is this 12-step program supposed to help with?
They have something to believe in, and that is all they need.
It's not that much. But it's also everything.
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Re: what to do when I cant connect to a 12 step program

Postby loriginalone » Fri Aug 17, 2018 7:51 pm

Substance abuse and bad behaviors
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Re: what to do when I cant connect to a 12 step program

Postby Eurus » Fri Aug 17, 2018 8:38 pm

In my experience, the 12 steps program is a sham for soul collection. It is funded on shame and it is built to trap the people in it by making them think they are powerless. Please contact a proper therapist to discuss your issues.

Could you tell me a little bit more about yourself and the problems you have been having? Maybe someone on here has relevant experiences.
Which one is pain?
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Re: what to do when I cant connect to a 12 step program

Postby VernonJenkins » Fri Aug 17, 2018 8:45 pm

loriginalone wrote:Substance abuse and bad behaviors

I'm guessing your life is mundane without these things, so I think logically to get over these issues, you would need a substitute of equal/higher value.
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Re: what to do when I cant connect to a 12 step program

Postby dextroaether » Tue Aug 21, 2018 11:26 pm

You sound a lot like me. I've struggled with addiction for 16 years now and I spent years of my life sincerely attempting 12 step programs. I just can't feel like part of the group, I can't connect to a higher power, and I don't think I'm helpless. Honestly, the program is stupid.
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