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Personal responsibility

Postby dobiedobiedoo » Wed Jul 11, 2018 3:31 pm

Personal responsibility means admitting ownership for your own behavior (at least to yourself) and the consequences of that behavior, actions or failures.
Do you do that sort of thing or is your natural instinct to blame shift?
A feeling of obligation is something that can drive a sense of responsibility for many people. What drives yours?
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby Reaper » Wed Jul 11, 2018 3:39 pm

dobiedobiedoo wrote:Personal responsibility means admitting ownership for your own behavior (at least to yourself) and the consequences of that behavior, actions or failures.
Do you do that sort of thing or is your natural instinct to blame shift?


I often blame shift. Sometimes I do it because I honestly don't see myself at fault, other times I do it for manipulative reasons and sometimes I just do it because I can. Why take the blame myself when I can throw the blame on something or someone else.

A feeling of obligation is something that can drive a sense of responsibility for many people. What drives yours?


I don't feel obligated to anyone or anything.

Selfishness and self-preservation is what often drives me to do the things I do.
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby FormallyZach31 » Wed Jul 11, 2018 3:42 pm

Reaper wrote:
dobiedobiedoo wrote:Personal responsibility means admitting ownership for your own behavior (at least to yourself) and the consequences of that behavior, actions or failures.
Do you do that sort of thing or is your natural instinct to blame shift?


I often blame shift. Sometimes I do it because I honestly don't see myself at fault, other times I do it for manipulative reasons and sometimes I just do it because I can. Why take the blame myself when I can throw the blame on something or someone else.

A feeling of obligation is something that can drive a sense of responsibility for many people. What drives yours?


I don't feel obligated to anyone or anything.

Selfishness and self-preservation is what often drives me to do the things I do.


:lol:
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby Reaper » Wed Jul 11, 2018 3:44 pm

FormallyZach31 wrote: :lol:


Feel free to explain why it's so funny to you.
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby ArchCannon » Wed Jul 11, 2018 3:47 pm

Depends on my mood. Sometimes I'm like 'I've caused this situation so I deserve to take consequences'. Especially when I'm down.
Other times I evade responsibility however I can.
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby dobiedobiedoo » Wed Jul 11, 2018 4:14 pm

Reaper wrote:
dobiedobiedoo wrote:Personal responsibility means admitting ownership for your own behavior (at least to yourself) and the consequences of that behavior, actions or failures.
Do you do that sort of thing or is your natural instinct to blame shift?


I often blame shift. Sometimes I do it because I honestly don't see myself at fault, other times I do it for manipulative reasons and sometimes I just do it because I can. Why take the blame myself when I can throw the blame on something or someone else.


I noticed. So it's always other people's faults? This sounds like a defense mechanism to protect one's ego.
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby Reaper » Wed Jul 11, 2018 5:13 pm

dobiedobiedoo wrote:I noticed. So it's always other people's faults?


Not always, no. I do blame others about 90% of the time though. There are a few exceptions where I have accepted responsibility for my actions.

This sounds like a defense mechanism to protect one's ego.


I don't know. Why would I need to protect my ego? protect it from what?
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby RogueKing » Wed Jul 11, 2018 7:17 pm

I take responsibility for myself and for those I care about. If you mess with someone I love, I will rip you to shreds.
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby Fool » Wed Jul 11, 2018 7:20 pm

Reaper wrote: Why take the blame myself when I can throw the blame on something or someone else.

...

Selfishness and self-preservation is what often drives me to do the things I do.


if you don't accept responsibility for 90% of your behavior, then what is the point of self preservation?

you only account for 10% of your life by your own standards. it seems redundant to explain such behavior as selfishness, surely? how is it selfish? you're literally putting the responsibility of your life on other people, which is fatuous.

it's taking away your power of accountability for the sake of pretense.

i mean, what is the point? you ask "why should i take blame when i can shift it to someone else" ...because you can? accepting responsibility allows the mind to grow, to change, to evolve and potentiate itself.

you're just another human bean, no different from anyone else, and as such you're perfectly entitled to ###$ up like everyone else. it's no biggie, you know? there's no sense in blaming the world for your incompetence when the world is already fubar, but if you disagree, can you explain why?
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Re: Personal responsibility

Postby madness00 » Wed Jul 11, 2018 9:26 pm

I shift blame.

It's hard to quantify.

When you don't even take responsibility for simple things such as food and bills, it's hard to look at it under an even larger scope.

I mean, i payed may dues so to speak with the courts. I suffered almost all possible consequences (except jail). And there's no one to blame other than myself.

Then where does blame shifting come in?
Other than blaming my family for not raising me in the ideal way (which i assume is true for most everyone), the little things. Things like why i'm alone, etc.
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