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Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby KvotheTheRaven » Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:41 pm

An overdone topic but I am wondering how you feel or have felt about a long term partner or spouse and your motivation for keeping that relationship without feeling a connection.

Or do you feel connected?
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby justonemoreperson » Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:51 pm

The closest I can get to describing the difference is that it's one of want instead of need.

At least that's how it seems.
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby madness00 » Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:52 pm

Looking back, all my significant others had high sex drive like myself, and were very giving creatures. There isn't much connection needed when you're getting good sex and good food at your service. That is connection in and of itself, for all it means to me.

I don't need someone to stroke my hair and tell me how handsome i am. And i don't go out of my way to pursue relationships, because the best ones are the ones that come naturally. The well developed latina that brushes over your cock on the dance floor, you start spontaneously dancing, make her laugh, peck her on the cheek and the rest is history.

It's the catch and release, that is so alluring to me.
Having someone amazing, at your complete disposal.

And it never, ever, ends.

It's electric.

I stay with all my ex's, in their mind. And that's good enough for me, along with the cool memories. I effected them in a big way, and hopefully in the future they make the best decision for them. Whether that be being with someone like me, or realizing it's too intense.
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby caspin » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:04 pm

KvotheTheRaven wrote:An overdone topic but I am wondering how you feel or have felt about a long term partner or spouse and your motivation for keeping that relationship without feeling a connection.

Or do you feel connected?

How I have feelt about connection to others is more to have fun but I do not really care if the other person want to harm me, I can possible manage it. If a person love me it does create other problems because I feel a strong dislike of something. If the person try to harm me or take advantage of me as all humans does it is a bit easier because I can see that pretty clear but I do not always care so it may have a effect on me.. Now these days I have learnet better to be around better people and to be more serious about real life things.

So you fight or run, you do not stay.
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby justonemoreperson » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:06 pm

madness00 wrote:I stay with all my ex's, in their mind. And that's good enough for me, along with the cool memories. I effected them in a big way, and hopefully in the future they make the best decision for them. Whether that be being with someone like me, or realizing it's too intense.



I suppose that's the irony of the whole thing: that my ex-partners will continually have a connection to me, albeit because they think of me as a complete c*nt and blame me for devastating their lives, caused by the lack of connection from me.
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby ZombieZ » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:12 pm

I feel like I’m falling in love in the beginning a lot, probably the chemical reactions but after that passes I start realizing the other person isn’t as perfect as I thought and start losing interest. If I really like being around them and or what they have to offer me like sex, or say a ride to the hospital then I try to fake it to keep it going but they ALWAYS notice and that starts the slow decent into crash and burn.
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby madness00 » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:13 pm

And the dance goes on..

As justonemoreperson exists stage left.

I will say, it's a sexy feeling to still feel you have control over someone so far away. And maybe part of that control is an illusion, but either way, i can't help to remember how things were left. Sometimes a nice fat wake of destruction can really do a lot of well needed clean-up work.
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby justonemoreperson » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:21 pm

madness00 wrote:I will say, it's a sexy feeling to still feel you have control over someone so far away.


I just find it irritating, that someone continues to blame me for sh1t that happened in the past. How f*cking weak are you that you can't get past it and yet continue to blame that sh1t for the fact you can't put your life together now?

It's like they now have an excuse for being pointless for the rest of their lives. It's the "Get out of Jail Free" card for people not capable of dealing with themselves. So fragile.

Maybe I'd like the ongoing control more if I still had an interest in them, but what's attractive about a broken toy?
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby madness00 » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:24 pm

Broken toys are by no means attractive, but they are fun to watch develop over time. It's more for the entertainment purpose. Like watching an ant burn under a microscope.
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Re: Lack of ability to feel love/connection

Postby justonemoreperson » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:26 pm

And yet, if you stabbed them in the face, you'd be the one in the wrong. It's a f*cked-up world.
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