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Intimidation

Postby ohreos » Sat Apr 07, 2018 10:36 pm

Do you like it when people see you as intimidating? Why? Why not?

In my case, I like to remain neutral. I intimidate people that I can control by doing so. I like to be seen as naive too so that people would have the sense that I’m easy to control while some would want to protect me from being so.
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Re: Intimidation

Postby ZombieZ » Sat Apr 07, 2018 10:51 pm

i Try to NOT be intimidating and it doesn’t really work.

Edit: I didn’t capitalize i... crystal would be proud
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Re: Intimidation

Postby ohreos » Sat Apr 07, 2018 11:14 pm

Zombieprepper wrote:i Try to NOT be intimidating and it doesn’t really work.

Edit: I didn’t capitalize i... crystal would be proud


How does it not work?
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Re: Intimidation

Postby ZombieZ » Sat Apr 07, 2018 11:20 pm

ohreos wrote:
Zombieprepper wrote:i Try to NOT be intimidating and it doesn’t really work.

Edit: I didn’t capitalize i... crystal would be proud


How does it not work?


I’m 6’3 275 lbs it’s hard not to be Intimidating
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Re: Intimidation

Postby Contrast » Sat Apr 07, 2018 11:29 pm

Sometimes. Depends on whether it is obstructive of what I want from that relationship. I flipflop a lot to project what I think would be more effective in the moment. Weakness, because I ought to be able to maintain a more stable image that allows people to know what to expect of me

-- Sat Apr 07, 2018 11:31 pm --

Having to change to my environment and being able to is a useful adaptive trait but it also means I'm less of a force of nature than ideal, since I have to change my style a lot and all the time.
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Re: Intimidation

Postby Knoxious » Sun Apr 08, 2018 12:43 am

I don't know if "intimidating" is the right word, but yes i like a certain amount of anxiety in people i deal with. People are generally more honest when in such a state. They also are more obedient.

Yes of course i switch my image too, but in general i'd rather be intimidating than not.

Maybe because i'm not, underneath it all.

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Re: Intimidation

Postby Aeva117 » Sun Apr 08, 2018 1:45 am

No. I'd rather people defer to me because they see me as more capable than them, not because they're afraid. I think respect has more to do with the one being viewed, while fear has more to do with the viewer.

In general, I try to elicit positive emotions from people. You can intimidate, threaten & hurt people, and they're going to do what you want for a while. But somebody is eventually going to get suspicious or fed up with your shlt and cause trouble. I find it much easier to make people genuinely like and want to do things for me.
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Re: Intimidation

Postby Reaper » Sun Apr 08, 2018 1:48 am

ohreos wrote:Do you like it when people see you as intimidating? Why? Why not?


Yes, especially when it benefits me. Intimidation is my favorite manipulation technique because there's a certain pleasure in knowing others are afraid of what I could do to them and I like creating fear in people.

Apparently, I can be intimidating without even trying though. Family members have told me I have an intimidating personality and some MMA fighters who were chatting on an MMA forum years ago were talking about me as though I'm intimidating to them, saying that I'm a scary person, that kind of thing.

I think I intimidated some therapists I've seen in the past. I know one of them was intimidated by me at least because he jumped in his chair when I suddenly leaned forward in mine as though I was going to jump up attack him. That was amusing.

There's other situations I could mention too, but that's enough to give you a good idea.



Aeva117 wrote:In general, I try to elicit positive emotions from people. You can intimidate, threaten & hurt people, and they're going to do what you want for a while. But somebody is eventually going to get suspicious or fed up with your shlt and cause trouble.


When that happens I say, "bring it on! Let's play and see just how dangerous you can get". Rarely does anyone ever do it though.

One day I'll probably get myself killed for doing that, but I plan to get my knife wet before that happens. I won't be the only one dying.
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Re: Intimidation

Postby ZombieZ » Sun Apr 08, 2018 11:06 am

Everyone is different and operates differently, but for me personally I find that when people are intimidated they will be more difficult and more defensive it gets really annoying dealing with people like this after awhile. I prefer to crack a stupid joke get them to lower their shields and then we can get down to business.
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Re: Intimidation

Postby caspin » Sun Apr 08, 2018 11:30 am

Zombieprepper wrote:Everyone is different and operates differently, but for me personally I find that when people are intimidated they will be more difficult and more defensive it gets really annoying dealing with people like this after awhile. I prefer to crack a stupid joke get them to lower their shields and then we can get down to business.


Yes I agree and you should not be laid back.
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