this is probably not much a light bulb moment to others who have discovered this already, but for me it was a big sobering realization. I often thought that others actions, quirks, comments, character traits, etc were what was causing my anger. That it was OTHER's fault that was triggering me.
BUT- I've come to realize that ultimately I'm furious with life in general because I"M just not happy. I think I'm in a deep depression, unable to feel a sense of personal strength and stability in my life. I cling so much to finding a good state of mind that when something or someone violates that it throws me off balance and I get so MAD. It's so difficult for me to be in a good mood and when I find myself there it is a very precarious balance, one where I get hyper sensitive.