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Not really missing booze, but...

Postby Irmtraud » Mon Oct 12, 2015 10:44 am

...I feel a bit awkward.

I have recently realized that I can live without alcohol - became more productive and emotionally a bit more stable, just after two weeks of not drinking -, but it comes with a strange feeling.

I live in an environment where drinking is socially accepted. On Friday and Saturday nights, most of the people goes out to the city, and all the pubs and bars are overcrowded with people who are horribly drunk. I did the same, on more occasions, but I see that it is not a funny thing to do.

Everyone says "Oh, I do not remember what happened last night", but I doubt that this is always true. I assume they mean they would rather not remember.
For me, it has never been funny to get drunk (and sick), and the day after, remembering each and every detail of how stupidly I behaved, how stupid things I said and so on... I always remember everything. Even if I had difficulties in speaking, or finding the way to the bus stop, I could remember even the most awkward or the ugliest scenes.

And, I wonder what I should do with my boyfriend.
For him, it is still okay to go out and drink, occasionally he gets home in a dangerously drunk state. He is not aggressive or something, but I am a bit worried about him. I don't want to say that just because I understood that getting drunk is not okay, now he must stop drinking too... but I do not like the thought that he destroys his health, usually cannot recall how much he consumed (if we go out together, I can convince him to stop when I see that he drank enough), and he might get into dangerous situations if he goes out without me...
Really don't know what to do. I hate preaching (though he knows my opinion), but I am worried.
He thinks "since everyone else does this, it is surely okay!"

What do you guys think about "social drinking" and this kind of "drinking pressure"?
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Re: Not really missing booze, but...

Postby TheBrit » Mon Jun 05, 2017 12:52 pm

It's probably best to stay away from environments or people that you feel are pressuring you to get drink in the first place. I wish you the best of luck with your boyfriend! I do think you need to lay down the law with him about his drinking. Clearly he has a problem and it's not fair on you when you're trying not to go back to dangerous drinking in the first place.
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Re: Not really missing booze, but...

Postby Wally58 » Mon Jun 05, 2017 10:45 pm

I have to agree. You aren't responsible for anyone else's drinking except your own. You can express your wishes, but don't expect compliance.
There are many nights in the past that I don't remember how I got home or when an injury occurred. Alcohol was killing me and I had to stop. I have 27 years, one day at a time.
I can go to a pub if I go for a meal and soda now. I used to be afraid of going there when I was so self-conscious of my not-drinking. Normal people wouldn't notice or even care if I wasn't drinking.
Best of luck to you. :D
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