WiseMonkey wrote:Thanks mm420. I could never understand why kids need to be dragged to therapy when parents are in control of them and are in a position to improve the family environment. Attending to the kids' needs is a part of being a parent and when the kid starts acting out the parent's most natural instinctual reaction is to talk to him or her and try to understand what is going on before trying to "fix" the kid. This requires a desire and a commitment on the parent's part to build trust in the relationship with the kid so he/she would feel safe to tell what's troubling them. I am a therapist and when I had to deal with parents who wanted me to "fix" their children, I'd send them to parenting classes instead and would tell them that if they don't know what to do with the kid, they could educate themselves about that by attending a parenting class, but they are ultimately the ones who should correct the child'd behavior, not a therapist. Sadly, parents just don't want to do their job and would rather pay someone to "fix" the kid for them. Also, they often don't want to face their own personal issues that contribute to their children's bad behavior. Many parents that I knew who claimed that their children were a problem needed therapy themselves.
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