I joined a car enthusiast site three years ago and everything seemed to be fine up to a point. In recent months all the discussion forum members seemed to have a dig at me or pick on things I say and the problem started to go downhill from there. I stood up for myself but then one by one more and more of the members turned against me and I thought nothing of it so I joined another similar site and only went back to give advice. Then the problem was about to get worse and it ended with a thread where all the users turned against me. One of the users managed to hack into my facebook with the aid of either one of the admin or a corrupt moderator and got hold of all my personal information which I kept private well away from public between people I choose to add as friends. This user then passed it around the members in the forum and it opened up floodgates into all my personal information which they posted up in the thread for everyone to see which contained pictures of me, my partner, work pictures and any other information they could find. The members then found out my name and they continued to post pictures of me 'For a laugh' thinking it was taking the mickey out of me when I wasn't offended by any of it. I was absolutely mortified more than anything because all my personal pictures were shared with the public where everyone could see it and I kept everything private. I asked for it to be stopped and I made an empty legal threat telling them I would go to the Police if it carries on hoping that it would end up being deleted. But it only made the problem worse and the moderator then banned me for making "A legal threat" and I thought once I had been banned they would eventually get bored and move on. Only they didn't the Facebook posting continued and the problems were even worse and they were festering like untreated wounds and now that they had corrupt moderators backing them up on their side its not going to stop. I deactivated facebook in the hope that the main source of information was killed but the problem hasn't stopped because they are still searching on the internet and finding other sources to post about me from everywhere. I'm fearing the worst and its not the members I am worrying about, I genuinely fear that someone else might get hold of this information that could be a dangerous person and they could come after me on the beliefs of how my character has been portrayed by these people. I'm also fearing that the 'Naming and shaming' could spread further and the problem could worsen. Because the moderators refuse to delete the thread its still up there to fester.
On the legal side of things they seem to be acting within the law and according to things I've seen over the internet they seem to be allowed to do this with the aid of a moderator because it is not classed as libel, abusive language, swearing or threats its just public naming and shaming with derrogatory remarks and personal postings made about me (Some have been homaphobic). Everything they've done seems to slip through the net with the Defamation act, Malicious Communications act, Harassment and intimidation and it all seems frightfully corrupt because its giving me a bad reputation and I am fearing that members of the public are reading what they are putting about me and this could lead to reprisals from people who don't know who I am.
If the moderators aren't deleting threads because they have no legal obligation to do so, it is only going to stay up there and fester. I'm not sure what to do about this as its not technically breaking the law on the forums part and I feel that I can't go to the Police about it and I feel to embarassed to say anything because I'm a guy and people will tell me to man up. But are these people allowed to do this sort of thing?
I work full time and I have an excellent social life with my friends and my family and I know these people don't have a clue what my relationship with my work colleagues is like, how I work, what my relationship with my family is like, what happens in my family, who my nan and grandad are they just know snippets of information compared to how my life really is but its way out of hand now and only one or two of the users told them "Isn't it enough now" and "havn't you got anything else better to do than post facebook things about him" and they seem to instantly turn on the members who talk reasonably and they scare them into ganging up aginst me with vindictive bullying tactics "We'll disown you" or "We'll turn against you" and those members feel they have to back away and join in to stay in with the member acceptance.
I just want it to stop once the thread is deleted I can rest but they insist on keeping it there to use it to bully me.