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Getting help for the first time!

Postby Boonya » Fri Jun 29, 2012 1:00 am

Hey, so after thinking about it for a month I finally told my mother who fought depression herself (unsuccessfully) and got an appointment made. I'm excited to know I'm finally getting help, but I'm also scared at the same time. I'm scared that I'll go in there and something will be wrong maybe I don't even have social anxiety, I'll be too scared to tell the truth. I just hate doing new things, I worry so much about whatever I'm doing and worry if I do something wrong everyone around me will judge me.

What I'm also worried about is I don't really know what my problem is. I haven't really left my house for anything other than school since my first year of high school, now a year out of high school. All I know is I want to live a life similar to everyone elses. I want to go places without this constant worry. I want to have a decent amount of friends up from the one friend I have on the internet now. I want to do things without thinking that everyone around me will judge me. I want to not sit in my house all day doing absolutly nothing because I'm scared of trying new things. I want to not be the most socially awkward person on the planet. the last time I had a conversation with a girl was probably grade 8, I'd like to know what it's like to have a girl friend, to feel love. All of these things right now seem so far out of reach but are so easily obtained by everyone around me.

Could someone please tell me what happens at these things and what I should have prepared, what I should know about myself. I thank you all so much and any advice you could give means so much.
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Re: Getting help for the first time!

Postby EarlGreyDregs » Sat Jun 30, 2012 3:17 pm

Hi Boonya -

I'm glad to hear that you are going to be getting some help for the anxiety. Why do you feel as though they will find something wrong? Going to a therapist is not like going to a regular doctor, where they take your blood and find a mysterious disease you didn't know about. If you're going there about social anxiety, then that is what you are going there for and what you're going to get help for. Therapy is there to serve you and help with whatever you feel you need help with.

I don't think you need to have too much "prepared" per se, for a therapy appointment, a good therapist should be able to know the right questions to ask to be able to get a clear picture of your issues. I'd say, maybe right down some key issues you have that you can bring up. What you mentioned in your post here would be great to print out to take with you, so you can say clearly what your thoughts are. Your fears and limitations were written nice and clearly on here.

You'll be fine. Going to a therapist for the first time is very nerve-wracking for people. But it's never as bad as we imagine.

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