by ncaustin » Tue Sep 20, 2016 1:15 am
Hey man,
If you really want to do this, I can tell you how, from experience. First, choose the guy you want to bond with, or at least one you would be stoked to bond with in the shirtless hug. Next, figure out how to get him in the right situation, which is hopefully one on one. If it's in a group of guys, you can still make progress but you'll have to modify a bit. The best scenario would be camping, but a secluded beach or hiking alone would work. Or invite him to your place to watch football/grill out, play basketball or whatever he's into. Just find what he's into and center it around that. If it's too weird to just have the two of you, if you don't know him as well, make it a group thing but of course focus it around him. Remember, you're pursuing him kinda like you would a girl, even though the goal is different and you don't want to suck his cock or anything. So getting him there is the hard part, but you can do it. Be confident and be sure delicious food will be offered, either you grill out, cook if you know how, or at least order and pay for the pizza.
Ok once the right guy agrees to come over, you're halfway there or more. You are kinda seducing him but that's half the fun! So, first, have the place halfway clean like you would for a chick, and pick out your clothes ahead of time. Probably nice jeans, a nice shirt, clean athletic wear if you look good in it, something that's fasionable and makes you look good. Come to the door with no shoes, just one button unbuttoned if you have a button up shirt on. Be casual but not sloppy. Make sure you smell good with no b.o. teeth brushed, well groomed but not fancy, etc. Shave your chest ahead of time if that will make you look better. (Remember, the goal involves you guys being really close and the chest is super important. He may end up rubbing it!) Next, be confident, say what's up, just be natural and be yourself, but stick to the plan. After the small talk, get him doing something he likes, playing a video game, watching something cool, a cool magazine, etc. It wouldn't hurt to have some straight porn available if the situation arises. But before you eat or watch the game or whatever, tell him you need to take a quick shower. (If you play bball or something outside, you can peel off your shirt and say 'shirts vs. skins' and laugh and see his reaction.) Anyway, don't lock the bathroom door! (Dropping hints) but go take a quick shower and get clean, put on some good cologne! Put on a towel and peek out the door and ask him if everything's cool. If he engages in talk, walk out in the towel for a minute. Otherwise, put on your sexy jeans or shorts or whatever (sexy doesn't mean skin tight) or boxer briefs if you know him better, or whatever your confortable with. But WALK OUT SHIRTLESS! Ask him if he's hungry and get the program going. Look in his eyes and gauge his reaction. If he seems uncomfortable, ask him if you should put a shirt on. BTW, have it a little on the warm side in your place, 74 degrees or so, so it seems more natural. And keep the lights on! It seems more normal plus you want to see his body, hopefully, and you want him to see yours.
Go on with the plan, but try to turn the conversation to sports and the gym. If watching football, comment on how big the guys arms are. Ask him if he works out. Have a couple sincere compliments in mind. The key body part to most any straight guys sexuality is the BICEPS. If his are big, say so! Compare to your own, or to the ones on TV, but COMPLIMENT his. If yours are bigger, find a way to flex in front of him. Drop down and do 10 pushups. You're young so go for it! Anyway, have a cloth tape measure (not the kind with the case) already in your pocket. You want to measure his biceps if they are big at all. If not, find sth. about him you like, hair color, built, height, arms, legs, sth not too gay, and give a sincere compliment!
Pretty soon you're gonna have to turn the convo. to the chest. Ask if he thinks it's weird to shave the chest. If you shave ask him that. If you think it's hairy, ask him how much hair he has on his chest, and if he thinks it's weird that you shave. If you're hairy, ask if he thinks you SHOULD shave, then ask if he's hairy. Then ask to SEE his chest so you can COMPARE. If ask real quick if he shaves his pubes too, or dick hairs, if he seems relaxed (optional).
So yeah, at this point you should hopefully be shirtless, compliment how he looks, his abs if you can, or even his nipples. Say, I'm not gay but you got a great physique or something. So then just ask for a hug or ask to give each other gut punches, whichever seems to fit his personality. Remember, keep up the sincere compliments, hair color, tan, amount of chest hair (either way) biceps, chest, clothes, even voice, atheletic ability, etc. The more comfortable you are shirtless, and talking about muscles, skin, hair, etc., the more he will be. Admire features he has and you don't. Then just say 'can I have a hug?'
If all goes well, you'll both have a great time and the next time you can get real specific about your 'fetish.' If it gets weird, just apologize and about a week later text him and say sorry it got weird, tell him he's a great guy and you hope you can still be friends.
If it's a group setting, STILL be bold and come out shirtless, take it slower, and just try to talk about muscles, working out, etc. Good luck! Sounds really hot, and I can't wait to hear what happens! I've done most of this, and IT WORKS.