premature ejaculation HELP!!!

f***....this is really hard to talk about....but its so wierd and is pissin the hell out of me. when i first had sex, i lasted over an hour and i didnt even ejaculate. things seemed to follow a sexual pattern like that, i could last a long time. but then one day a blew it after a few minutes, and now its becoming more and more constant. today it was honestly like less than a minute and its killing my confidence, and i know i cant even satisfy my grilfriend. im pretty sure this is all just a mental thing, but i dont know what to do, if anyone has a similar experience....or some advice....or anything they could tell me to try and help me out thta would be great.

Well, i can't really identify other than to say that I cum quickly when I've had lots of tension, delay, and stimulation prior to entry. but who doesn't?

as far as suggestions, well, rule #1 is not to think about it. Easier said than done for sure. Premature ejaculation, imo, is a mental obstacle. You bring it on yourself by thinking about it.

until you get mental control over the issue try masturbating immediately prior. or getting sucked off or whatever. basically get the ejaculation out of the way 1st then do your thing.

Sometimes, like when i've been out of town for a couple weeks on a job and haven't masturbated and i get home and my wife is ready to go i just say, "Look, I can tell you this isn't going to last long if i don't get off first... can i masturbate onto your breasts or in your mouth or something before we do this?" Works every single time. Your basically spinning it so that your doing her a favor.

yeah fetids got the right idea.my fiance cums quite quick...so i usualy give him a quicky or a blow job first...leave it a bit,maybe give him a massage to relax him.then we reaky get into the foreplay...bless him he makes that last for ages so im at boiling piont once we have sex.so even if he does cum quick again ive usualy orgasmed anyway.it always lasts longer the second tme around.

A premature ejaculation is the inability to control or to delay ejaculation as long as the male wishes, often resulting in distress for the individual or his sexual partner. Current estimates suggest that over 33% of males experience premature ejaculation, making this the most common dysfunction in males under 40 years of age! The primary causes of this dysfunction are normally attributed to factors like high stress and anxiety levels, prostate infections, testosterone imbalance, high blood pressure etc. There are several courses of treatment for this dysfunction. One of the methods of treatment suggested is the withdrawal or squeezing of the penis during sexual intercourse (just before ejaculation). This serves to stop penile stimulation and consequently prevent premature ejaculation. For severe persistent cases of premature ejaculation, serotonergic anti-depressants or SSRIs (eg: Seroxat, Prozac, Cipramil, Zoloft) are prescribed. Those wishing to deal with premature ejaculation naturally, we recommend Ikawe Herbal Forumula

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Have you tried building your PC muscle? The PC muscle is the muscle you use to stop urine flowing midstream. When you go to the toilet next time test it out.


So anyway, start flexing this muscle 20 times in a row whenever you remember to do so. For each repetition flex it, and hold it in the tensed state for a second or two. Over time the muscle will build up.


Next you need to start masturbating more to test this out. When you do so, at the moment of ejaculation, flex that muscle again to hold the semen in for as long as you can. When you release the muscle semen will be expelled but then you must flex it again. While this is happening continue to masturbate.


Over time this might help with your premature ejaculation and it also might give you the ability to have multiple orgasms. I'm male, and I have multiple orgasms every time now, lasting about 30 seconds.

okay chucky youve got my fiance flexing away here...ladies its also a god way of improving the pelvic floor muscles..when u next go for a wee try and stop the flow...it helps keep things nice and tight.

Great! Well, I can guarantee that it works for multiple orgasms but whether or not it cures premature ejaculation is unknown to me

if pure love in the garden you wouldn't be worrying about it because you would be fascinated by the sensations and not worrying about not satisfying anyone or any other socially constructed worries

the world wants you to worry, for some reason, Idonowhy

doit like Jocasey says

Having been in this predicament years back, I’ve done some real work, digging deep into different techniques of some guys to prolong ejaculation.

Keep in mind, the best way to solve a sex issue like a premature ejaculation is combinations of different methods. It is usually a long shot if you just do one or two tips.

So, you’ll learn here what premature ejaculation pills or delay pills to take, applying desensitizing sprays, taking deep breaths, changing positions, and etc.

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I would be cautious of experimenting with pills or using sprays. These are mostly marketing gimmicks, but could be dangerous.
This would be a good conversation to have with your primary physician. Doctors deal with these questions all the time.
It would be good to rule out any physical issues first. He may refer you on to a specialist if he suspects another problem that is out of his realm of medicine.