While it is indeed subjective, your definition is far off what mine is. Society tends to define perversion as pretty much any non-normal sex, IE: not missionary style vaginal penetration.
I’m attracted far more to anal/oral sex than vaginal, attracted far more to “odd” positions than missionary. Going into more depth, bondage, domination, and submission are yet far more attractive. Not in the sense where I wish to inflict pain upon a partner (other than that pain which more fully heightens pleasure). Still farther into the “perverted” spectrum is attraction to being penetrated by a woman with toys, being strap-ons or what-have-you. It just seems that the more perverted the act is, whether I’m the dominant or the submissive, the more I’m attracted to it.
As for attracting a more normal girlfriend, that’s pretty much impossible. I have SAD so creating a relationship is nigh impossible. While it’s something I would be interested in, opening up in that respect is… difficult to say the least. Also a “normal” partner isn’t something I’d probably be attracted to anyway.
Finally, you seem to think that I want to scare, or cause pain to my partner and that’s not even close to a goal of mine in sex, that’s the exact opposite! My goal is to get them off as many times as possible disregarding my own my physical desires. And the fact that bringing that/those orgasms to my partner would bring more pleasure to me than my own orgasm.
To some I go fast
To others I am slow
Some need me free
Others in control
My laws are absolute
And none yet have been broken
Invisible I be
Yet all can see me