Is it co-ed porn, or girl-on-girl porn?
There is a reason why I'm curious. A recent study (not Reisman's, she's a quack) has found that watching female-male porn produces different results in the male body than watching female-female porn. They think it has to do with natural, caveman-like competition.
If you must have porn, try some girl-on-girl stuff, and see if you feel better afterwards.
There is a possibility that you're just worn out and snappy after using up so much energy. Try taking a short nap after masturbating. Don't forget to eat right.
Also, you could have some negative ideas associated with masturbation, and those can increase feelings of depression. Any guilty feelings about self-service? Reisman is half-right on one thing: shame can turn us on. Initial shame + pleasure of orgasm = reinforcement of shame.
A moderate amount of good sex (solitary or otherwise) has been shown to actually be an anti-depressant, a great form of exercise, and linked to lower instances of prostate problems in men over 40. Or 50, don't quite remember. However, lots and lots of sex among younger men has been linked to some health problems. In other words, it's everything in moderation. Don't wear out your body, but don't let your private parts atrophy from non-use, either.
I don't see anything wrong with masturbation. I don't see it as demeaning to myself - and I'm a woman! It used to be even more taboo for us. As long as you don't neglect your partner, I don't see a problem with self-service. And by neglecting your partner, I also mean, don't get so used to your own quickies that you can't last more than 3 minutes. Also, it's what gets you off that is an issue. There are plenty of things that are perfectly acceptable among consenting adults
, let's leave it at that.
Personally, I like to think of my fiance. Or sometimes even a personal achievement. Nothing like having your ego stroked.
Do not take my advice or anyone else's before talking to your doctor/counselor/other professional. Depending on where you live, you may be able to find free, confidential care. Most importantly, sometimes your shrink can be wrong. Get a second opinion.
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