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Masturbation and mood

Postby someoneelse » Thu Dec 04, 2008 12:53 pm

Did you notice any mood change before and after masturbation?

If I don't do it for more than 2 days I feel great and I am not lazy for anything, but mostly after I do it I loose interest in everything else and even for my hobbys I don't have interest, and I become arrogant

After sex several days in a row I also get into this 'state', and since on every vacation with my girlfriend we do it every day or more often, the last several days I spend in not too good mood.

Does it have the same effect on mood with you (at least sometimes)?
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Postby Chucky » Thu Dec 04, 2008 11:50 pm

When you masturbate, your bloodstream is 'flooded' with hormones that are very potent at changing moods. Think of it as a sugar-rush: You feel elated at first, but then you get on a downer. That's all there is to it dude - It's just natural.
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Re: Masturbation and mood

Postby Ravine » Sat Dec 06, 2008 12:37 am

hi someoneelse

Yes,it happens to many people. Agree with above post.

Thnks

:)
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Why would you do it if you have a gf

Postby seulki3 » Sat Jan 31, 2009 7:47 pm

I'm aware that masturbation is very very common among us men even if a man has a gf or married. However, I'm curious to know the reasons for you choosing to do in spite of having a gf who will have sex with you.

I know that may get a bit personal, but if you can share some of the reasons, that may help us celibate guys who are getting none and who only have masturbation for a (pathetic) outlet of their sex drive.

However, my personal opinion is that masturbation may not have immediate physical harm, but should be avoided/minimized as that is degrading/demeaning to your own person.
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Postby Chucky » Sat Jan 31, 2009 8:49 pm

seulki3,

Even when I had a partner, I masturbated more then than I do now (and i'm single now). I would feel guilty about fantasing about anyone but my partner though. In fact, it's been three years now since my last relationship and her (my ex) is still in the majority of my fantasies now.
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Postby seulki3 » Sun Feb 01, 2009 3:20 am

Chucky,
Thanks for your insight. Perhaps, my previous psychologist was honest/truthful when he said that married men masturbate more than single men.

Perhaps, being celibate does not need to be so lamentable or heartrending.
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Postby Chucky » Sun Feb 01, 2009 11:55 pm

seulki3 wrote:Chucky,
Thanks for your insight. Perhaps, my previous psychologist was honest/truthful when he said that married men masturbate more than single men.

Well, the truth about this is that you cannot generalise. I mean, there are men out there who are married and who masturbnate a lot; but there are also single men out there who masturbate a lot too.
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Postby S3 » Mon Feb 02, 2009 7:06 pm

In general, if all I've done is masturbate without porn, the change in my mood isn't very noticeable. I just feel somewhat depressed. It's markedly worse during and after porn use however. I can get snappy, impatient, and often feel pretty miserable. I'm married btw, and I'd say I masturbate less than when I was single, but my sex drive is greater than it was when I was single. I could masturbate more, but I try not to, so take that for what it's worth I guess.

This article names 4 different chemicals released during porn use which, incidentally, are the same released during foreplay and sex. They are testosterone, oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin. Testosterone has a reputation for making us more aggressive, and I assume that masturbation would release it just like sex or porn would.
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Postby seulki3 » Wed Feb 04, 2009 2:25 am

Like S3 said, I think the depression that can occur after masturbation needs to be taken note of. Masturbation can leave you feeling depressed and miserable.

As for who masturbates more, married or single, my previous therapist was speaking in statistics. Yes, you can't generalize. It would be different for each guys, married or single.
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Postby FrayedEndOfSanity » Mon Mar 09, 2009 10:53 am

Is it co-ed porn, or girl-on-girl porn?

There is a reason why I'm curious. A recent study (not Reisman's, she's a quack) has found that watching female-male porn produces different results in the male body than watching female-female porn. They think it has to do with natural, caveman-like competition.

If you must have porn, try some girl-on-girl stuff, and see if you feel better afterwards.

There is a possibility that you're just worn out and snappy after using up so much energy. Try taking a short nap after masturbating. Don't forget to eat right.

Also, you could have some negative ideas associated with masturbation, and those can increase feelings of depression. Any guilty feelings about self-service? Reisman is half-right on one thing: shame can turn us on. Initial shame + pleasure of orgasm = reinforcement of shame.

A moderate amount of good sex (solitary or otherwise) has been shown to actually be an anti-depressant, a great form of exercise, and linked to lower instances of prostate problems in men over 40. Or 50, don't quite remember. However, lots and lots of sex among younger men has been linked to some health problems. In other words, it's everything in moderation. Don't wear out your body, but don't let your private parts atrophy from non-use, either.

I don't see anything wrong with masturbation. I don't see it as demeaning to myself - and I'm a woman! It used to be even more taboo for us. As long as you don't neglect your partner, I don't see a problem with self-service. And by neglecting your partner, I also mean, don't get so used to your own quickies that you can't last more than 3 minutes. Also, it's what gets you off that is an issue. There are plenty of things that are perfectly acceptable among consenting adults, let's leave it at that.

Personally, I like to think of my fiance. Or sometimes even a personal achievement. Nothing like having your ego stroked. ;)
Do not take my advice before talking to your doctor/counselor/other professional. Depending on where you live, you may be able to find free, confidential care. Most importantly, sometimes your shrink can be wrong. Get a second opinion.
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