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Extreme sexual frustration. EXTREME!!!!

Postby Parador » Thu Jun 12, 2008 11:19 pm

Summer's here and women aren't wearing so many clothes. It's making me totally freaking NUTS! I'm a 40 year old virgin with avoidant personality disorder and I get an intense anxiety reation in any sexual situation with a real woman - porn is fine.

I went to the mall last weekend. Ugh! All those young women. Too many to count. I saw one in particular who was just so curvy.

Even the young women at work are scantily clad. There's this young VERY thin blonde. Her waist must be only 20 inches. And she wears SKIN TIGHT clothes. That's so HOT. And then there's this 6 foot tall woman, 25 or so with a volupuous figure. Today I saw a girl who I haven't seen in a while. Petitte brunette, thin waist, extremely soft smooth skin, great hips. And breasts! Wearing a shirt that showed some of her exquisite shoulders, soft skin and beautiful clavicle. Beautiful brown eyes too. I was dying! I wanted her so badly!!! I tried not to stare. I tried so hard. But I couldn't help it. She's so beautiful, so terribly excruciatingly gorgeous. Then there's the girl with long brown hair. She wears pretty tight clothes too. Shows off her hot bod. HOT.

What makes it worse is that no women want me anymore. Maybe when I ws 25 some women would show some interest in me. But my ship seems to have sailed long ago. I blew it.

Now I am going crazy. This is just freaking TORTURE. It's like having gone weeks without food and being at a giant buffet and not allowed to eat. I may LOSE IT and grab some women's butt. Kiss her neck, caress her hair. I wouldn't have time for much else before she screamed and called the cops.

I put up hot girly posters in my bedroom to see if it would help to be able to look at gorgeous female nakedness all night long. Jenna Jamisen, Brooke Burke, Vivid girls etc. It DOESN'T HELP. I WANT WANT WANT. WANT. WANT!!!!

GOING INSANE!!!!
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Postby ON_THE_EDGE » Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:43 am

Don't feel too bad. If it wasn't for a hooker, I would still be a virgin too.

But that was 21 years ago. :oops:
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Postby Theart » Fri Jun 13, 2008 3:20 am

Perhaps you should adhere to ON_THE_EDGE’S example and obtain a prostitute. What marvelous experiences might unfold!
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Postby LOUISVILLE » Fri Jun 13, 2008 4:57 am

Sex is like air. Its not important unless your not getting any. I was in your shoes, until a woman brought me outta my shell. You just gotta put your hook out there, if you wanna catch something. Give yourself a fresh look. Make yourself,not trendy, but intriguing. And just know that its not looks that score, its the player in the game. Know that everytime you encounter a woman you find attractive, is another chance you can achieve your goal. No matter where you are, you can start a relationship. To the true romantic, there is no such thing as an "everyday mundane task".

Also, you need to develope confidence. That is the biggest attraction, no matter how you look physically. Do you want a relationship, or a one nighter? Relationships are harder to obtain, lol. I am not at all "attractive", but I know what Ive got going on, and let me say this, being a VERY large man, has/and will not impede on my ability to attract various attractive ladies. You need to develope a "set", or shall I say, a routine.

Reject the thought of rejection. You have nothing to lose with a stranger, yet ever so much to gain. Get out there, flirt, put yourself in the scene, and become an avitar of yourself. I wish you courage,not luck, because thats all it takes...
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Postby Parador » Sun Jun 15, 2008 3:15 pm

Nah Louisville - it's going to have to be the hooker. I AM out there. I meet plenty of women. They are just not interested. I tried a new look by shaving the mustache, but it didn't work. I could try more drastic stuff I guess, but being AvPD that is very difficult.

I have even tried online and actually put my pic out there. No good. I got a couple of dates with women who I was not the least bit attracted to. One was not grossly overweight, but she wanted more pics. She finally agreed to meet me to see what I looked like. It was "hi - bye" And she seemed really desparate. She had this "please talk to me" profile.

It's really hard to have confidence when you are so anxious about sex you feel like you will pass out. I must get over that first. But I can't get over it until I actually have sex. But it is hard to get sex when you are anxious. It's like the chicken and egg. There may be some extrordinary womean out there who would like to help a guy like me, but she must be one in a billion. My chances of finding her are near zero.

It's going to have to be a hooker. I probably should go to strip clubs first to desensitize myself a bit first. That should work. But I even get bent out of shape about that.
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Postby ON_THE_EDGE » Sun Jun 15, 2008 3:35 pm

Make sure you wear a condom. :wink:
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Postby Sparkles » Sun Jun 15, 2008 3:40 pm

Although I don't disagree with the hooker part, I think you should try the online 'dating' a little bit more. Perhaps the site you used was not right for you? Look over your profile and see if it can be improved any? Get some more pics of yourself.

There was a time in my life where I wouldn't have got laid if it wasn't for the soft purr of the pc in the corner of the room.

But - I may also add - but could be completely wrong. If you do manange to get laid it might lead you to realise you want more than just 'sex' i.e. you might want it with all the accessories like cuddles and getting to know someone.

But seriously, don't give up on looking online.
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Postby ON_THE_EDGE » Sun Jun 15, 2008 3:48 pm

That's fine, but internet dating can lead to traveling. And I cannot travel very far, and I'm sure some lady won't come 2000 miles to meet me.

There are slim pickin's around my 10-20. (location)
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Postby Parador » Tue Jun 17, 2008 2:55 am

I've got to stop going out. I was out by the mall again this weekend. ARGGHHH!! A woman in a red tank top. OUCH!!! CUUUUUUVY!! So I went into the bookstore. And saw this smokin' pettite asian. I had to go home and watch two hours of porn.

You know how long I've been online? 3 years. That online stuff is hopeless. I can't really date anyway. I'm having an allergic reaction to dental work that makes it painful to talk. It's been going on for 3 years and I've spent 20k trying to fix it. Dentists are morons. Most of them say you can't be allergic to dental materials and won't do anything to help.
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Postby Schala » Tue Jun 17, 2008 6:20 am

You know 100-200 miles isn't far as far as distance. You don't need to live 10 miles away from someone to meet them. So online might still be worthwhile. I personally go on a BDSM dating site.

I'm virgin, 25, soon to be 26. And I'm not really after 'fixing' that. It will all come in time. I'm not saving myself or anything, but I'm not bent on getting laid either.
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