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How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby lilStud » Sat Jul 08, 2017 5:24 am

Hey,
to make it short, I am 20 years-old and my penis in the smaller end of the average(about 5 inches). I feel extremely insecure about it to the point that I avoid and am afraid of intimacy, particularly with girls for whom I have feelings. How do I get over it? More details below

I've to tried getting over my fear by having sex with girls I didn't care for. I had sex 3 times with 3 different girls. However, I did not enjoy it and I felt like $#%^ after every occasion. Also, the fact that I was only able to make only one out of the three girls orgasm reinforced my feelings of inadequacy concerning my penis.

I've been now seeing this girl for almost 6 months but I've been avoiding intimacy because of my insecurities. Rationally, I know she probably won't reject me because of my penis size. However, I feel extremely anxious about not being able to satisfy her/not satisfying her as much as the other guys she's been with.

Aside from sleeping with girls I didn't care for I tried other things too to get over my issues, but with not succes:
-I have done a bit of penis enhancement. However I felt like I was harming my penis more than anything else, after reading some studies and testimonials I guess I was right. I'm currently thinking about buying a penis extender(some clinical studies show it can increase lenght by 1 inch). I feel stupid about it though because I know I'll be only treating the symptoms and not the cause. Also, it's expensive lol.
-From what I've read, size does matter to women but it isn't a deal breaker and it's very feasible to have a satisfying sexual life with a smaller tool. However, I just can't accept it for some reason.
-I've limited to a minimum porn and masturbation(less than once a month).
-I'm also thinking about seeing a sex therapist

What would you recommend me to do? What are some concrete things I can do to get over my insecurities?

Thank you for your answers!
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Re: How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby AndyVish2290 » Sun Jul 16, 2017 2:18 pm

I don't think 5 inches is a mistake. I'm around 5.5 or 6 inches and I could be happier with 2 more but I'm sure I can please women with it. Is there anything other than your size thats stopping you such as premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction? If not then just learn how to use the tool my friend and you can still show your girlfriend an awesome time!
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Re: How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby Tyler » Mon Jul 17, 2017 9:21 am

Seeing any sort of therapist would work for this. Not necessarily a sex therapist. Sex therapists are usually reserved for people who have done illegal things, sexually. Rape, masturbation in public, those sorts of things. A regular therapist could help you get over these.

Also, I'm somewhere between 5 and 5.5 inches, and I have erectile dysfunction on top of that. I still please my boyfriend easily. I perform oral on him, and he's happy. On top of that, I recently bought him an adult toy so he can stimulate himself, due to my dysfunction (or when I'm at work or asleep, as I work a different shift than him). There are more ways to please a woman than with penis size, and like you said, she won't mind about your penis size. Most women don't mind average. Not everyone can be 8 or 9 inches long, and by no means do all women want that.

She may be getting worried that you're not being intimate with her, though. I know it's easier said than done, but maybe just try to be honest with her over your insecurities. Someone that truly cares about you will help you through it. I was highly insecure about my erectile dysfunction. When it came time for my boyfriend and I to first have sex (we were both virgins), and we're doing foreplay, and he said "Okay, stick it in," my heart sank and I almost broke down completely. I told him that I couldn't get an erection. The best thing I could recommend to you, is don't wait until the last second like I did. My boyfriend was understanding back then, and he's still understanding to this day. If she cares about you, she'll understand, too. Having her assurance may just help you get over your insecurities, and who knows, maybe she'll be the only girl you'll ever need.

Hope this helps.
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Re: How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby skilsaw » Mon Jul 24, 2017 8:51 am

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Re: How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby Screwed_Up » Sun Aug 27, 2017 6:40 pm

Be glad you don't have a true micropenis like I do. Talk about feeling worthless. :oops:
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Re: How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby LittleHallucynation » Sun Aug 27, 2017 7:02 pm

Your penis is not small. Cheer up!
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Re: How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby lilStud » Fri Sep 01, 2017 3:54 am

Thank you for all your answers! It truly helped me..
Things probably won't work out between me and the girl, but penis size/sex isn't the main issue for sure. It was great(for me at least, and probably for her too). Having sex with someone you like truly makes a difference.

@Screwed_Up That sucks... I'm not the best person to give advice out there but here's my take.
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Re: How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby lilStud » Fri Sep 01, 2017 5:55 pm

I accidentally posted what I was writing in the previous post without finishing it lol.
The things that helped me the most, even thought I'm not entirely over it yet, is:
1- Doing it with somebody you feel a connection to.
2- Focusing on the pleasure that person can bring to you instead of always thinking how you can please them. I'm not saying to be selfish in bed, but instead of trying to appreciate the whole act instead of just the intercourse. Try to get lost in the moment and have as much fun/pleasure. It is a lot easier said than done, but I believe that if we keep making an effort to change our mindset of pleasing others to pleasing ourselves, it can help.
3- Finding a girl that prefers clitoral stimulation to penetration.

Hope it helps man, all of the best
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Re: How to get over my small penis syndrome?

Postby Screwed_Up » Mon Sep 04, 2017 12:07 pm

lilStud thank you for the advice. It is very true what you said but easier said than done because first I have to get over my issues and find a woman to do it with :lol:
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