Help me with my inhibited ejaculation

Hi everybody

first of all I should thank the creator(s) of this great forums and the members who are gonna read my long post. especially the ones who are trying to help me.

I am 22 years old male from Iran. I used to be very religious in the past and I'm foot fetish. Being a Mu slim helped me avoid watching porns and masturbating until someday my curiosity made me to do some googling to find out what the hell is wrong with me and bang! Suddenly I found myself watching foot fetish videos and masturbating. I lived that way for about 4 years. sometimes I did it a lot (even 3 times a day) and sometimes I could manage to stop it for 1 or 2 months.

2 months ago I started a sexual relationship and realized I can't ejaculate. I had good erection to her body and could give her 4 orgasms that night but nothing for me. hand stuff and oral didn't work either. I even tried foot jobs and it didn't help. She was so sad and felt selfish and unattractive.

I talked about my problem to her and she acted very supportive. next time we had sex, when she was doing oral and hand stuff on me, I leaded the conversation to a especial way and made her say some stuff slightly close to what the female says in the foot fetish videos and it worked. I had a good ejaculation although she had no idea what just happened.
I realized that my problem is my fantasies which are about vagina, breast or any part of female body, it's all about humiliation and being dominated.
We kept doing this kind of sex for a month, first I bang her and then she masturbates for me, but there is no way we can orgasm in the same time because she barely talks during regular sex. even if I could make her do it, that's not her nature and would be annoying for her. plus I hate this fact and wanna have normal fantasies and sex.

during more googling I found out the fastest way is hypnotism therapy, today I went to a therapist and he asked one grand to do it which is not affordable for me for the time being. I wanna know if there is any other way to treat this damned problem. I also wanna know if moving in with her is a good or bad idea.

thanks

Are you still watching that kind of porn, aaff? Because if so, that's my first thought. To completely stop that! It's not because I'm anti-porn or think it's bad in general. But it's training your sexuality a specific way. And unless you're willing to be open with your partner about what gets you off. And she's willing to play along with that. It won't work any other way.

Are you very sure she wouldn't be willing to talk in that way, though? She already seems pretty open minded. I can understand not wanting to do it exactly the same way every time. But perhaps natural variety would open this up for you both over time. It's also a chance for her to be honest with you about what turns her on. Perhaps she has a specific kink or fantasy that you can help fulfill?

In terms of moving in with her. I'm a little old fashioned here. And think if you've only been seeing each other a few months. That might be too soon. It also puts pressure on you to solve this sex problem. And pressure is the last thing we need when there are problems in the bedroom.