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Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby espoac » Wed Jul 14, 2010 8:24 pm

I am a 19 year old male. I have had sex once before and while it pretty much "worked physically", mentally I was disgusted and emotionally I felt dirty... ("like an animal" I kept saying in my head). I have never experienced any sexual abuse or anything even close to it and have no social or religious pressure pushing me away from sex. I most definitely experience sexual attraction, although talking with other men my age has lead me to believe my sex drive is on the low side. The idea of going through the actions of intercourse though, is, to me, revolting. I've never discussed this with anybody partly because I suspect nobody I know would understand but also because I don't view it as much of a problem. I've become content with this and it only bothers me when I have to get out of situations where people try to initiate sex with me. I suppose I'm just curious if this is at all common...if there's a name for this sort of thing, and of course why I might be like this.
Thanks for reading.
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby foxwithwings13 » Thu Jul 15, 2010 2:31 am

It kinda sounds to me like asexuality.
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby Leviathan » Sun Jul 18, 2010 7:08 pm

Seems to me like you're anti-sexual.
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby JayD » Mon Aug 02, 2010 10:15 pm

Most likely asexual or had very little contact with sexual fantasizing at a young age. Have you ever watched porn? Probably not if you consistently find sex disgusting. It is not necessarily a bad thing. Unless you want it to feel good. I do not know what to suggest to make it interesting for you though. I would look around the internet and look up more stuff to find answers. But my bet is that even though you were never raised against sex, you never have had a lot of contact with sexual fantasies or sexual relations when you were younger.
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby WonderfulDay » Mon Aug 02, 2010 10:46 pm

I'll throw this out there -- you do realize that we *are* animals, right? It is OK to feel like an animal because it is what we are. What I wonder about is why you consider animals behaving like themselves as something bad or dirty. Do you find it undignified? Are you embarrassed? Could it actually be a problem with closeness rather than sex? Do you masturbate? Are you embarrassed that you do if you do?

Do you have any cleanliness issues?

Were or are your parents very strict and "proper"?

I'd really suggest talking to a therapist about this. You don't want to let this thing fester because it will really inhibit your relationship potential.
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby myke » Tue Aug 24, 2010 11:53 am

SEX is great and I love it and it is not disgusting. In fact, it's kinda' fun
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby ysteph » Thu Aug 26, 2010 10:22 am

I think, you simply regard the hinder part of the body as "dirty". Some others are able to find it nice and attractive. They feel an urge to touch, fondle, or even kiss it. This is petting, close o the nursing, and certainly not animal-like behaviour, at least for me. You should join a nudist group, maybe you will get some comfort when "hinder parts" are walking around you, and your disgust will be gone.
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby mduke01 » Sun Jan 08, 2012 5:53 am

I know exactly how you feel. I always wondered why, if humans are such higher beings, we revert to this animalistic behavior. It always bothers me when people say sex is beautiful or call it "making love", because you're not, if animals can't love and do the same things then you're not making love but rather trying to make a discusting act sound better.
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby ellabelladella » Wed Jan 18, 2012 6:15 pm

I just want to point out that we are animals. I mean do you feel like an animal when You eat or breathe or sleep? cuz animals do all of those things too.
*But* i didn't really get the impression that sex grosses you out because animals do it, it seems to me that it's more that sex just grosses you out and as a result you think "it's like animals". Look there could be a million reasons for this, it could be from some experience you had as a child and forgot about, it could be a chemical imbalance, or anything else, maybe it's just the way you are, who knows.
Since you said it doesn't bother you i don't really think there's anything wrong with saying "well i'm asexual and i'm totally fine with it" and leaving it at that. But it also wouldn't hurt to maybe talk to a therapist and see if they can help you figure some of it out, maybe there's some underlying issue that's effecting you in other ways too. Or you could think about going to a sex therapist to see if they can help you figure out a way to enjoy sex. As long as it doesn't bother you, i wouldn't really worry about it.
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Re: Why do I find sex so disgusting?

Postby RetroHoney » Sat Jan 21, 2012 9:59 pm

I am like the OP. i don't find it disgusting as much as I get disgusted when people talk about it like it's the best thing since sliced bread. I also get angry and want to punch their faces in when they say 'sex is so natural, etc.' I do not know why this is. OP i will tell you what people say to me since i am a virgin older then you at 32: maybe you are gay or maybe you are asexual. I personally am neither but can't speak for you. GL
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