Screwed_Up wrote:For what its worth sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have breasts and a vagina (I'm a guy BTW).
FreeElk wrote:Screwed_Up wrote:For what its worth sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have breasts and a vagina (I'm a guy BTW).
Thanks for sharing . Do you fantasise about it or just wonder about it?
I just feel like I have gone past wondering. It isn't a constant thing or the only thing that turns me on but it is a fantasy I find myself coming back to. I don't really know why it is (perhaps some sort of desire for being in charge) but my mind always finds that one to come back to.
Do your wonderings ever stretch as far as thinking of being the girl in sex? (Sorry if this is personal, if you don't want to talk about it you don't have to reply, I know I wouldn't have been ready until recently).
Screwed_Up wrote:I think the fantasy of being a member of the opposite sex is actual pretty vanilla.
Screwed_Up wrote:The phallic symbol is seen as a symbol of power in many cultures. For whatever the reason though, it's probably seen by society as more acceptable for women to fantasize about being in the men's role then vice versa.
Screwed_Up wrote: women wearing strap ons during sex is actually not that out there either. I would find it a turn on if I found a partner who wanted to play using one
Screwed_Up wrote:Sometimes I fantasize about getting pregnant. Ok how's that for strange?
FreeElk wrote:I guess whether something seems vanilla or not depends on a person's exposure to it. Using the ice-cream analogy: if one family always had chocolate ice-cream the vanilla flavour wouldn't be 'vanilla' to them. I suppose I'm just less exposed to people of the same mindset. I've only recently been using the internet to talk about my sexuality in any way and on the internet you can find a group of people interested in anything. My groups of friends, however, have never really seen it as a norm in anyway.
FreeElk wrote:I think being the one receiving the penetration is a more vulnerable position, the penis is a means to that end, perhaps. I do think there is an unfair advantage for women to explore their sexuality in some ways...but then in others its like if you do anything particularly kinky or often you're a slut. My area of work is fairly male dominated, I'm always careful about how I act there to try to make them see me as an equal.
I think I would like to try this...I'm just not entirely sure how to broach the subject with my boyfriend but I think it is the closest I'm going to get to actually having one.
FreeElk wrote:Sure in general it isn't normal. I have all the necessary equipment and I don't fantasise about being pregnant but then maybe that is why...it could be a little too close to a real worry. I don't think it is too strange though.
Screwed_Up wrote:I think it depends on the relationship. If you feel like they might be open to it then I would test the waters before coming right out and saying it. If someone really cares about you and they don't share a fetish I highly doubt you would lose them.
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