Hello anyone who reads this, I have been thinking about seeking some advice about this for quite a while but kind of put it off until now.
I am 25 years old and have been having sex since I was 16. The girl that I lost my virginity to I was with for about 7 years, and my addiction (or what I think is) wasn't as much of a problem with her. I would basically get it whenever I wanted it, in whatever way I asked without any hesitance. Which looking back on it now could have been due to many things; She was a bit materialistic, so name brand purses and such kind of "got her going" for lack of a better term. If she was satisfied in that aspect, she would do what I wanted. But it didn't feel like prostitution, which that basically is. We got along good sexually, but basically everywhere else was a constant battle. So after a long relationship, we broke up.
Now for the reason why I am posting this... my current girlfriend of 2 years. When we first met sex and frequency wasn't an issue. I continued along the same path I was always on, getting it when I wanted it and everything was great. But as relationships go, I am told things usually die down a bit. Well, for me that isn't really the case. And that is causing a pretty big problem in our relationship.
Basically, my ideal frequency is about 4 times a week. More if possible, but 4 minimum. If that doesnt happen for me, I get pretty irritated. And I won't beg for it, but I'll be mad if it can't happen. I watch porn sometimes but I don't make a day of it, and I don't fantasize about the girls in the porn; but I do want to do things like that with my girlfriend.
She isn't quite as outgoing sexually as me, so sometimes I am left with some to be desired but I have never thought about getting it elsewhere. She doesn't do oral (or want it done to her) or anal. Which is kind of ok with me... to an extend. I get bored of the same thing pretty easy, and mixing up positions sometimes doesnt help the matter.
The biggest problem with all of this is that me wanting to have sex, and it not just be quick and painless like a dentist appointment, causes a stir in the relationship. She is more of a 2 time a week kind of person... and that is most of the time a problem.
I realize that I have a bit of an obsession with sex, but I don't masturbate heavily nor think about other girls / cheating... so i'm confused as to what is wrong with me.
Sorry for the long post, to those who are like me and sometimes want a quicker summary -
I want to have sex 4 times per week minimum, she wants to do it 2 times per week max. I am faithful and plan to stay that way, but it's hard to meet her in the middle.
Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks