JenniferSolo wrote:we had a discussions about gay and bi sexuality relationship and my opinion was you are either gay or straight. Someone who is bisexual is just confused. He was very upset about my position and said that I'm completely one sided.
I had a boyfriend like this once many years ago.
About the argument you are both right in your own ways.
For me it sounds as if he is having a guy affair, but these things can be difficult to prove.
I think my ex had several reasons for not "coming out of the closet".
He didn`t know what to "come out" as..you say that he is confused i say that he is enjoying both lanes.
For him that feels natural.
But again its a slim evidence to say that he is gay based on your assumptions, i "support/understand" gay people but i am straight.
You must remember that for gay people coming out there can be a lot of fear for pre justice and judgement.
A man who is straight should not give you all of these insecurities.
I don`t think that he is lying to you when he says that he loves you, you have to consider whether it is a point to your suspicion or not.
Even if its difficult you have to make a stand of point here!
Here are some suggestions what you can do, you decide whether you want to take them or not.
I strongly hope that you can keep the friendship you have with him-he sounds like he is a nice guy.
It doesn`t always feel right that you should hang on to his insecurities, but sometimes we need others.
Its your choice if you would like to stay with him or not. People who give us attention makes us feel very special about our selves.
To me it sounds as if you are looking for mr right.
My ex would lie to me when i asked if he was gay or not.
In the end we started to argue.
My ex wasn`t really honest with me, and when that happens communication becomes impossible.
For me its important to have good communication in a relationship.
Ask yourself some question, i mean he seems like he accepts everybody, would you be interested if he suddenly brought a male friend to your door and asked if you would like a threesome?
Some people have a broader sexual interest then others, perhaps you are not compatible?
Sure everybody can be adventurous in their own ways.
Maybe you should let prince charming back into the forest again? If he isn`t your type.
Again i am assuming because you are assuming..."no fire without smoke".
If he was straight then why be giving out signals of otherwise?
You must make your own choices here, i think he should be honest with you and i feel after reading your thread that he isn`t, but again this could be because i am thinking about my ex.
He should be honest with you! Unfortunately not everybody are he might be afraid that you are going to leave him if he is honest(again some theories..).
Its a bit difficult to make a conclusion when i haven`t seen him(and even then it can be hard to tell).I think what`s most important in a relationship is how you feel
Is it just the sex that is good?
Is it his sensitive nature?
What about your feelings?