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Postby tinysquash » Fri Jun 12, 2009 4:17 pm

I am in a very positive and supportive relationship with an amazing sexy woman and I'm addicted to porn.
My addiction to pornography in general has grown over the years. I managed to get myself off it for a few months but the other day I was browsing the internet and I accidentally discovered Adult Web cams. This is something I never knew about before and when I checked it out, I couldn't believe it was real. Since that day, I check to see what girls are online almost everyday. I don't even masturbate to it. I just go from live webcam to live webcam for hours on end. It's like watching a gerbil in a cage. They can't see me, but I can watch them. When I first discovered it I signed up, and had a "private session" with one of the girls that I liked a lot based on the fact that she looked almost exactly like cameron diaz. She's probably some poor girl from Russia. I had one private session with her then I cancelled my account immediately. I had never done anything like this before, and it felt a lot like cheating. i mean, there's and actual girl on the other side who I was writing back and forth to. And then she took her clothes off and masturbated while I masturbated. I feel so guilty. Since then, I drop by daily to see if she is there. And if she is I just watch her for hours. If she is not there, I go from live girl to live girl and just watch them. It's interferring with my relationship. I mean, I have a crush on a Russian webcam girl and I'm in a relationship?! WTF is wrong with me? Its crossing into reality for me. I find myself thinking about her when I'm walking down the street. I need to stop, and I've made a promise to myself that I would a week ago, and I broke that promise to myself once already.
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby Chucky » Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:54 pm

Hi,

An addiction of this nature is just like any other addiction, and some people are just more susceptible to addictions for whatever reason. I have my own addictions right now, but they differe from yours (admittedly, I used to be addicted to pornography). Anyway, there is one way out of this: Get rid of the webcam - i.e. throw it away in the trash. Do you really need it? You have to flick that switch in your head that says you are finished with all of this stuff. Then, once you flick that switch, you must throw out the camera, change your emails, and delete all contact references/details of these other girls.

Get into the habit of removing things from your life that you don't truly need.

Kevin
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby NewMe » Fri Jun 19, 2009 7:03 pm

tiny -
I can tell you that I am discovering that viewing anything that creates lust in my mind is and has been for a long time
a way to avoid. My parents were both alcoholics and used liquor to avoid closeness with on another.
I have used porn in one form or another to avoid intimacy with people I've loved very much.
Just wanted to tell you that and hope you will think about it to see if it might be something that you are doing at this time.


Regards,
Len
Thanks for listening.....
Len


SOONER OR LATER WE MUST GIVE UP ALL HOPE OF A BETTER YESTERDAY!
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby graeme » Sat Sep 25, 2010 9:53 am

i have the exact same problem,its really exciting and satisfying to be able to see beautiful women whenever i want and tell them
what to do for me sexually and they do it willingly without a problem. i try not to visit the sites because i start to obsess and lust after women there, i've even fooled myself into believing i was in love with a few of them. i'm an average guy, i really don't have problem meeting women outside of the internet. i don't now why i do this. its a bad addiction.
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby romoto » Sat Sep 25, 2010 1:22 pm

Internet s a great place to meet people and chat, I have several on line friends from regular chat rooms. I have checked out the adult video sites, most women are just after cash and the likely hood of finding a friend on there is about 0%. If you try to think in terms of reality, these women are just after cash, they don't care if you live or die and there are 100's of guys they are doing the same with. The only person who is getting excited about the private session is you.
I have never been addicted to porn, probably because my world is black and white, I see things as what they are, so I now it means nothing to the gal at the other end and therefore does not excite me. Just thought I would share that and it might help you stop the web cam addiction.
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby graeme » Sat Sep 25, 2010 10:52 pm

very blunt sobering words, thank you JeffreyA
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby jaybaines30 » Mon Sep 27, 2010 6:56 pm

Most addicted people spend most of their life either trying to stop, wishing they can stop, or preparing for their next attempt to stop. If addiction is stopped correctly you can stay stopped through out rest of your life and have so much control, addiction feels like a thing of the past. People use all the will power they have and waste years trying to stop. But ask them, if you had all the will power you should have been able to stop then why did you go back to your addiction? By now you should know that no matter how much will power you have you won’t be able to just stop your addiction with will power.
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby josco3 » Sun Jan 27, 2013 6:44 pm

I think webcam girls also worsen the trauma by doing the following:

-They make men feel guilty when they leave a chatroom without saying goodbye. However this is not a friends relationship but a relationship between a customer and a seller. They often complain that main leave the chatroom without saying good bye. They also complain about short chats.

They make men believe the relationship is a friendly relationship. This is a sentimental blackmail. If you stay with me and if you pay, i am going to be nice to you and be the perfect girl for you.
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby SavedByGod » Wed Jun 05, 2013 12:52 am

This has been a very good discussion. The comments are spot on, the girls are interested in 1 thing, your cash. I know because as soon as you stop giving, many turn against you, even very harshly, demonstrating the lack of caring.

However, I think we need to recognize that these girls are very real human beings, most in desperately poor living conditions. So they are desperate as well and willing to do nearly anything for cash.

The black and white comments are most helpful. Recognize the situation for what it is and move on. Grab a video game, read a book, write a book.

Have a great day.
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Re: Addicted to Adult Webcams

Postby sailon » Wed Jun 05, 2013 2:14 pm

There is of course a huge number of "amateur" "cammers" who enjoy non-fee based cybersex, who are simply enjoying the voyuer/exhibitionist experience for it's own sake, I think. :wink:
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