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Postby packersfan » Fri Nov 10, 2006 8:07 pm

hi guys im new here and its nice to see that there are other people here that i can relate to. my problem is that i am addicted to masterbation. but, i dont masterbate at home or to pornogrpahy, the only thing that does it for me is to do it in public in situations were i could get caught. every time i leave my house, i have a very strong urge to masterbate. i masterbate at school during and after class, in the car, in church, and during work. im starting to think that maybe this is some kind of disorder, and i was wondering what i should do about it. thanks a lot! its really encouraging to see so many people who have the same problems i do.
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Postby bigdeal_1 » Sat Nov 11, 2006 10:43 am

Hello,

How have you managed to masterbate in public and at the places you mentioned and not get caught??

Just wondering........
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Postby packersfan » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:00 am

bigdeal_1 wrote:Hello,

How have you managed to masterbate in public and at the places you mentioned and not get caught??

Just wondering........



whenever i do it during class or church what i will do is to pick a seat in the corner by myself or with few people, and wait for them to become busy so that i wont get caught, but i could be if they looked over. when driving, i am often caught, escpecially at red lights, but nothing has ever happened except for getting a bad look.
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You want to quit. Please tell us why.

Postby onlinehope » Sun Nov 12, 2006 6:48 am

Packersfan,
There are many ways to quit a habit or addiction. Could you please list as many reasons as you can on why you should quit?
First list all the negative things that will occur if you don't quit.
Second, list all the positive things that will not occur if you don't quit.

Once you have done this, I will be eager to continue to help you.

Good luck, we'll be here to help, if you have a desire to change.
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Postby stuzel » Sun Nov 12, 2006 3:44 pm

I'm also new here but not new to sex addiction recovery. I am in recovery for 17 months from obsessive compulsive marathon masturbation, porn (BIG internet addict), affairs, escorts, exhibitionism, voyeurism, cocaine and other stimulants.

The sex addiction is the toughest...not the drugs. I've been sober from cocaine for the full 17 months but not from the sex addiction. I'm now gaining sobriety from sex addiction albeit only 74 days but for the first time I do not feel the compulsion to masturbate at all. Yeah, the thoughts come but they quickly leave and the compulsion never develops.

I have also masturbated in public including in cars, airplanes and women's rooms (I am male). Well, I got arrested in the women's room at my college albeit 28 years ago. That got me to quit the women's room thing.

What has worked for me is a combination of individual therapy, group therapy, and sexaholics anonymous meetings (12-step: www.sa.org). I've also been in inpatient and intensive outpatient programs.

Check the webite:

http://www.ncsac.org/addicts/resources_main.aspx

to find a local sex addiction therapist.

Note that if you are seen by a minor child (for example in the car next to you), that is a felony and you will get jail and your picture posted on a sex offenders site as a pedophile.

Thanks for posting and I'm praying for you.

Regards...Stuzel
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Postby bigdeal_1 » Mon Nov 13, 2006 7:57 am

Packersfan,

I sure hope that you seek help soon. Especially with the 'car masterbation' issue.

Please don't get this the wrong way. I am usually on these forums because I like helping people and also because I get help myself for many issues. But I have to let you know that your post was a trigger to me, because I just had a flashback of one time when I was riding in the school bus and on a redlight, I was looking out the window on the right side of the bus and I saw a man in his car very close to the bus and he was masterbating. I was only 8 years old and I had absolutely no clue what he was doing. I kept starting at him to figure out what that long, skinned-colored thing was between his legs that he was moving his hand up and down to. As I was looking at his body I decided to look at his face and there he was looking at me!! I had no idea what it was but I felt freaked out about it for a long time. When the light turned green, he took off real quick so I saw the make and model and color of his car and memorized it forever.

I blocked out the incident until many years and years later when I was an adult and something triggered the flashback. I came to terms with it eventually.

Now, this post reminded me of it again when stuzel mentioned

Note that if you are seen by a minor child (for example in the car next to you), ...........


Please don't think I am being judgemental, and good luck to you.
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Postby robertr2 » Wed Aug 27, 2008 1:03 am

Not quite masterbation but I luv exposing my self. A few times late at night I would walk naked outside. Sometimes I would masterbate in my backyard behing a cedar fence. I could hear people chatting and walking down the alley. It was exciting but it is dangerous and illegal.
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Postby bearsfan » Thu Oct 09, 2008 6:21 pm

i know what you are going through....but stop! i did those same things and finally got caught and now i am a registered s.o.!!! not a good thing. now it has been expunged and hopefully in a year i can get the lifetime s.r. taken off, but this has cost me dearly. i couldn't get the job i trained for, and other jobs like teaching are obvioulsy out of the picture. it is a hard thing to stop doing, but is has to be stopped....trust me nothing good will come from this...eventually, like me and others, you WILL get caught ( because u will get bored and try something more risky) and then u r @!@@@!!


good luck!
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Postby Ryn89 » Wed Nov 26, 2008 3:46 am

Hey there, when i was going through puberty i had the same kinda problem, not so much public, well the odd time at work but i would never climax etc.. i used to masturbate alot and it controlled my life my thoughts etc... however i kept tryin to go without, i would go so long then fail again, and then a bit longer and fail, until i got in a relationship which helped me millions i havent masturbated since, i think differently about it now and i can look back at what i used to do. Just a suggestion, i dont know whether you are in a relationship, but i do know it can help.
"We relish news of our heroes, forgetting that we are extraordinary to somebody too"
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Postby ornevereverholdmeagain » Wed Nov 26, 2008 5:08 am

i understand what you are going through. I have sex in public places all the time. I have been caught before but that doesn't stop me. I think you and I both can quit because being registered as a sex offender would be awful, especially if it is something we think we can't control. Maybe cops don't understand what we go through but you have to remember that they will catch you eventually. They will not be sympathetic because they probably do not feel the same urges we do. I hope everything works out, there are many people who care about you here.
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