Partner of sexual abuse survivor who has libido issues *tw*

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First of all, sorry for what has happened to you.
My girlfriend was sexually abused about 3 years ago (we are together for 11 years now - though I'm 30 and she is 28 only).
We have been in a long distance relationship when this happened to her.
We leave together for 1.5 years now (she moved to me about 1.5 years after the abuse), as I couldn't continue the long distance relationship anymore.
We had sex approximately 5 times in this 18 months, the last 4 times she agreed to do it just because of me - I didn't force her to do it, but it is true that sometimes I feel that I will explode because of the missing sexual life.
She doesn't want to talk to me about the abuse, she doesn't want to go to a psychologist - as she tried 3 times and she was crying only and said that it is not helpful at all.
What would you recommend?
I'm desperate to solve this situation because I love her and want to keep the relationship alive, but I won't resist for years.
Regards