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Re: GF told me about her past abuse and its Hurting me*Triggers*

Postby sadmanhere » Sun Apr 05, 2015 4:33 pm

moonie thank you for replying


i am processing what youve said.

ive been online looking for someone with a similar experience


the questions i have are abnormal i think . i basically want to know every detail .
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Re: GF told me about her past abuse and its Hurting me*Triggers*

Postby Moonie » Sun Apr 05, 2015 5:50 pm

I don't think it's abnormal. As someone who cares a lot about his GF, I actually think it's normal for you to want to know everything about it. I mean, someone who claims to love his GF but yet not care enough to probe into one of the more traumatic experiences in her life, now that I think is abnormal.

Don't give up hope. I'm sure you'll work things through. :)
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Postby sadmanhere » Mon Apr 06, 2015 4:20 pm

how old r u moonie?
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Re: GF told me about her past abuse and its Hurting me*Triggers*

Postby Moonie » Mon Apr 06, 2015 5:54 pm

I'm 19.
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Re: GF told me about her past abuse and its Hurting me*Triggers*

Postby sadmanhere » Sat Apr 11, 2015 1:44 am

time to time she mentions something about when she lived in france and i get shocks in my body

like she was watching a cartoon on youtube and she was like this was a cartoon she liked when she lived there..n i was thinking about her being that young enjoying this cartoon and then this grown men having sex with her...after or before.....

really gets to me... i want her to tell. once a abuser always a abuser right?
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Re: GF told me about her past abuse and its Hurting me*Triggers*

Postby seabreezeblue » Sat Apr 11, 2015 10:22 am

I know you want her to tell but she needs to do this in her own time and if she never wants to tell then you need to respect that.
being made to tell can be horribly traumatic and seriously.. you do not want to be the one to make her relapse. I also wouldn't be surprised if she denies everything if someone tries to force her.
Recovery is such a delicate thing and she needs to be able to choose how she does it.

Be there to support her if you can manage that but please don't place responsibility for her abusers actions on her.. the abuser is 100% responsible.. no mater who tells or doesn't tell. If he does it to someone else, your girlfriend did not make him do that by not telling on him.
He did it.
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Re: GF told me about her past abuse and its Hurting me*Triggers*

Postby sadmanhere » Fri Apr 17, 2015 2:47 pm

i have been doing a lot of reading and i think i come across to explain whats going on with me

i am having hyperempathy to this is anyone familiar with this term? i walk around all day shattered
as a part of my life is taken. im haunted by this.
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