Needing some advice

I don't know where to post this but here it goes. In a few weeks I have a gyno appointment and am really nervous about going. I haven't been in two years since I was 21 years old. The last time I went I barely made it through the appointment. I have been very nervous and almost cry every time I think about going. I don't want the dr to ask why I haven't been in the last two years. I haven't told anybody about the abuse and I'm not ready to tell anyone either. Has anyone else been in this situation? I need some advice on how to handle this.

Just a suggestion, but your experience of this procedure might be quite different if you talk to the doctor beforehand and explain that you have a sensitivity to it. You don't have to go into any detail as to why, you can just explain that it's difficult for you. They will understand, as you are not the only person with this sensitivity. Many others have it too, for various reasons. So it wouldn't be out of the ordinary for you to voice your concerns.

When you talk to the doctor, you can explain how you've reacted in past procedures, so they are aware. That will allow them to adapt their methods. Also you can discuss in advance what will happen if you react like that again. The doctor may have suggestions as they've probably encountered this reaction before. Also your anxiety will be lessened if you know what's going to happen, and that nothing will be forced to happen that you don't want to happen. It helps to view it as a partnership between you & the doctor rather than as something that's being done to you, outside of your control.

Main thing is not to feel that that there's something wrong with you because you have this sensitivity, or that you can't talk about it with your doctor. People sometimes forget that doctors are people too, they want to help you and not cause you discomfort. They are very knowledgeable but they are not psychic. You help them by providing feedback and explaining your concerns as well as you can.

Anyway, I hope that helps.

It can be very hard to discuss any type of abuse with gyno or dentist. If your comfortable a good gyno or dentist will understanding because it isn't the first time they heard it from their patients. They should be sensitive to your anxieties during the procedure.

There is absolutely no need to discuss any abuse. You don't even need to mention there has been abuse. Call ahead and tell them you are very anxious. Ask what they can do to help. This is a very common issue and they have lots of things they can do to help. They may even suggest on the phone some things you can do, or they can do, to help and you can decide in advance which ones you like.