Hi. I know this is a long post, but it would mean the world to me if you would take a read and give me your thoughts.
In the beginning of April I started dating someone who I really liked, and who I felt I had a really great connection with. He was funny, charming, sweet, and we had a great deal of interests in common. We met several times after and had a fantastic time together. He introduced me to several of his friends and not long after he also got to meet up with my mum for lunch. I felt like I was at the top of the world, with things going well at work, at university, and now I had finally met someone who I really liked. Three weeks later, he sent me a long SMS where he said that he had Schizotypal personality disorder and that he had wanted to tell me in person, but felt it was too difficult to bring up. He wrote that he understood if I no longer wanted to be together with him. Without knowing what on earth Schizotypal was, I told him that I of course wasn't going anywhere, and that I was willing to do anything to make things work. So far, I hadn't felt anything particularly odd or different about him other than he was usually a quiet type of guy. He seemed perfectly ordinary.
A month later, he goes away to visit his parents for a week. After he returned, everything changed. We were supposed to meet up some days after, but he told me that he felt psychologically ill and that he wanted to be alone. I told him that was perfectly fine, and I hoped for his swift recovery. Days pass, and not a single message from him. Something was wrong. I write to him on Facebook, asking how he was doing. He's seen my message. No reply. I can see he is online on all social media platforms. Later the same day, I write to him again and he replies, but only with single sentences.
A few days later I write again. This time, no reply. I start to worry: Has he lost interest in me? Have I done something wrong? I google "schizotypal symptoms", and read that depression and a tendency to isolate oneself are among them. I decide that I want to be there for him, and call him over the phone. He doesn't answer, but he does reply to my messages over Facebook. He writes that he cannot psychologically deal with anything right now. I ask if I have done something wrong. He plainly answers "No".
Another few days pass and my emotional capacity is reaching its limit. He hasn't reached out to me in over a week. I write him a message, asking if he was getting better and if it would help if I came over to talk to him. He sees the message. No reply. I get frustrated and upset and write that if he wants nothing to do with me, then he can at least be direct and tell me the truth. Finally, he gives a long answer, telling me that I don't understand his psychological condition and that if wanted to be in a relationship with someone without a mental illness, then I should go do that. I'm in pain. I write: "How can you expect me to understand your condition if you never want to meet up and talk about it?". He answers: "That's exactly the point! Sometimes I don't even have the mental capacity to get out of bed. How do you then expect me to be able to give you daily updates of how I'm feeling?". I'm in emotional distress. I write: "I'm coming over to see you, whether you like it or not. See you in 20 minutes". He repeats that he is in no condition to talk to me and that I wouldn't be let in and should just turn around. By the time I'm at his apartment's front entrance I'm in tears. I beg him via text to open up and let me talk to him. He answers "I CAN'T /u/Piotyras".
This was my last correspondence with him from 2 days ago. I've realized now the gravity of his condition and that he is much sicker than I had ever imagined. But I'm having such a hard time understanding what's happened. He's a completely different person from the one I got to know during our first month together. We went out, we met friends, we dated, we talked, we had daily contact. He seemed perfectly ordinary. Now, he has isolated himself from the world, and trying to make contact with him seems to only makes it worse.
I hope someone out there can help me understand my situation. Thank you for reading.