The "need for admiration" thing is still too unclear for me. I have a need for concrete confirmation of my sense of superiority (like I said back then, in my other thread about it, it's a sense, not a belief). But admiration often works in the opposite direction: if someone I see as stupid admires me, and I'm not in any way trying to manipulate/influence them, then it's not a good thing... Also, more often than not, I perceive flattery to be a futile attempt at manipulation, and completely meaningless. I derive the "admiration" I need from the inside, through interpretation of indirect input I receive.
As I already expected her to, Gray said she doesn't have a need for actual admiration either. Sounds about right. But she is technically a narcissist, while I'm not, and most of you guys probably aren't either. Feels to me like we have counterexamples to the distinction here. So... where's the line? What defines it?
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