Somebody help me understand

OK so recently I had laser eye surgery and from peoples reactions I'm getting the impression that people are finding me a bit weird including my own family and I don't understand why because they know I'm introverted and I like to keep to myself.

Basically a conversation between me and a family member went like this:

Family member: Why are you wearing sunglasses indoors?
Me: because I had laser eye surgery yesterday
FM: What? When? how come you didn't tell me about it?
Me: because I had the consultation a few days ago and decided to do it as soon as possible and I didn't see you between that time
FM: yes I remember you saying you was going to get it done but I didn't realise you meant like now
Me: why would I suggest it if I wasn't serious about it?
FM: because your only 20 and most people would wait to do something like this and think it over
Me: but what is the point of waiting 10 years when I could have good vision now and i've said that I was going to do it for years so i've had plenty of time to think about it.
FM: thats so brave though, doing it at your age
Me: .... hmmm o..k if you say so (unable to comprehend how she equates the two)
Goes into detail about the procedure for a few minutes
FM: so what was your mums reaction when you decided to get it done
Me: I haven't told her yet (shes a bit of an overbearing parent)
FM: What! Then who did you take with you?
Me: I went by myself
FM: (expresses more shock) why? weren't you scared or nervous?
Me: erm... no (she looks confused so I explain) there was nothing to be scared/nervous of, if I had some doubt over the procedure I wouldn't have had it done and when I decided to go through with it I accepted the possible risks and prepared myself for the outcome, and I didn't want anyone there because...
Me thinking: I knew they would irritate me someway or another
Me: I knew they would get worried and end up worrying me (congratulates myself on such a good excuse)
FM: so how did you get there and back?
Me: I took the bus
FM: you are officially mental (walks off with an expression I would describe as disbelief)
Conversation ends

Now I'm baffled by peoples reaction which is about 3 people i've bothered to tell and avoided this conversation with others because i'm getting bored with it and the other two have had similar responses. I don't understand why they think my actions are strange, if anything I thought it was strange that people who were about 30/40 at the clinic place, also getting the surgery, holding onto their friends or partners hand as though they were being carted away to be tortured.

What exactly do you want to understand more? Other people, yourself?

I don't know. When I got lasik surgery, I wasn't supposed to drive for 24hours. Instead of tracking down a willing acquaintance to drive me, I camped out in the optometrist's parking lot in a rented minivan listening to harry potter audio books. I had to walk 3 miles to the rental place, but I like walking. That was ages ago and I haven't told anyone about it. My visual acuity doesn't come up in many conversations. I figure people just like to wig out about stuff for no reason at all. I don't get it either.

If you wanna understand talk to them about it, cuz I sure don't know. But then, you don't really want to understand their position or you wouldn't come to us with it. You want us to side with you and tell you that everyone else is crazy. Well they are.

I don't know why they are so worried, but I kind of understand, I think. Although the surgery has a high success rate they can have great draw backs. I guess your family hadn't read up on it, and were worried of permanent damage.

People are just really dependent. They think you need somebody to do everything. So when somebody does something, where it is recommended you have somebody with you, alone, they think you're crazy.

People expect you to be like them and tell them all about every single inane happening of your day.

TheScrambler wrote:People expect you to be like them and tell them all about every single inane happening of your day.

So true, if find small talk useless.

meatwagon22 wrote:I don't know why they are so worried, but I kind of understand, I think. Although the surgery has a high success rate they can have great draw backs. I guess your family hadn't read up on it, and were worried of permanent damage.

But it's nothing do to with family, it's a personal decision. And the risks don't change because you tell people.

I don't remember if I told my family I was having it done. I think I told them some time later. I was in a different country to them at the time. I did have someone to accompany me, but if they hadn't been available, it was within walking distance, so I'd've done that. I've done that after other medical procedures, or else got a taxi.

I wish I'd done it much earlier for the reasons you give, Kaia.

Most people desperately tend to feel about other people. Those feelings desperately tend to require emotional response from other feelings in order to operate their balanced survival. The emotional response tend to form the percieving outcome of the feelings. Meaning 'most' people need other people, their emotional responses and a forming of emotions to be people.

Your peers feelings bases their communication with you on maintaining a stable view of you (i.e. trustworthy to not confuse the perception) thus expect you to share an emotional response to them in your communication, meaning they want you to tell them things in the manner their emotions guide them to tell others.

I tend to percieve emotions as crawling maggot organisms disturbing the brain's ability to think logically. Parasites defining the borders of 'out of the box' perception.

Maggots...