Hi Guys how i can get a girlfriend?

Sorry to take over your topic.

I was diagnosed as a schizoid and although i think relationships are demanding for me i feel depressed by the loneliness.

But not only the loneliness, i have a sex drive and i am sexually frustrated. Even if i am social with women and approach them i get always rejected. It gets me frustrated that sex or relationships happens to others even with schizoids, they say women are not attracted by non social people, but i see here that it's not the case, which frustrate me so much. I am single, people say that i am above average, in 33 years the only sex that i had was paid, which makes me feel like an undesirable person. It gets me agitated that others can easly get that kind of contact. I feel empty of not having that pleasure.

Love, sex happens to other people, even schizoids, am i a f*cking joke? I feel like a pariah.

Sorry about my english.

kemory wrote:

Tyler77 wrote:As a Schizophrenic, I never thought I'd find a romantic partner. I looked for years, but then I found him. I didn't know it at first. We were friends for about a year before we officially started dating. He's Schizoid. He said he never was interested in dating, and the first few months of dating were a little odd, but we're still going after two years.

The point I'm trying to make, and probably failing at, is that you've got to keep trying. There is someone out there who will accept you. Socialise around. Maybe even try a dating site.

Sorry but it's easier to talk because you're a woman.
I created fake profiles of women on dating sites and received dozens of messages a day. So if you're male, there's a lot of competition. And if you're schizoid, even worse.
Okay, so your boyfriend is schizoid and your relationship lasted two years?
Wow It might be a record because I've never heard a schizoid whose relationship lasted more than a year. That gives me hope.
So in this post so far there are two schizoids with relationships and both girlfriends also have psychological problems.
I guess that should be my best bet too. But where do I find women with psychological problems? It must be difficult.

You're wrong to say that I'm going to ask me to get rid of it.
There are at least two happy schizoids with relationships here.
And there is a third here who also seems to have enjoyed the experience:
schizoid-personality/topic146350.html

Well....a lady Schizoid would have the hassle of constantly trying to get rid of the other person or always turning down offers. I can't really say that would be easier, necessarily. The key would be how severe the SPD is. That would determine the difficulty in this situation.

I Dream 5 wrote:

kemory wrote:

Tyler77 wrote:As a Schizophrenic, I never thought I'd find a romantic partner. I looked for years, but then I found him. I didn't know it at first. We were friends for about a year before we officially started dating. He's Schizoid. He said he never was interested in dating, and the first few months of dating were a little odd, but we're still going after two years.

The point I'm trying to make, and probably failing at, is that you've got to keep trying. There is someone out there who will accept you. Socialise around. Maybe even try a dating site.

Sorry but it's easier to talk because you're a woman.
I created fake profiles of women on dating sites and received dozens of messages a day. So if you're male, there's a lot of competition. And if you're schizoid, even worse.
Okay, so your boyfriend is schizoid and your relationship lasted two years?
Wow It might be a record because I've never heard a schizoid whose relationship lasted more than a year. That gives me hope.
So in this post so far there are two schizoids with relationships and both girlfriends also have psychological problems.
I guess that should be my best bet too. But where do I find women with psychological problems? It must be difficult.

You're wrong to say that I'm going to ask me to get rid of it.
There are at least two happy schizoids with relationships here.
And there is a third here who also seems to have enjoyed the experience:
schizoid-personality/topic146350.html

Well....a lady Schizoid would have the hassle of constantly trying to get rid of the other person or always turning down offers. I can't really say that would be easier, necessarily. The key would be how severe the SPD is. That would determine the difficulty in this situation.

It does not hurt. I like hard women.

i understand the desires that you set out in the op, as i too felt those things, but the social spheres zeno mentioned are a huge problem that you should consider. maybe for a first attempt, this can be overlooked, but i would say you're just setting yourself up to fail if you enter a relationship, that if you really thought about, you know is going to fail. this failure could then deter you in future.

so i would advise finding a girl from overseas, who speaks english as a second language. when visiting her home nation, you won't understand a word of what is being said when you meet her relatives and friends; so the social interaction is at a bare minimum. you're free to take in the culture and sites without social obligation or causing offense. if you enjoy her company, she could return to your home nation, where she will have no social circle; again reducing your social interaction down to a bare miminum. if you picked well, your partner will have you feeling completely at ease being yourself, and will follow you as you persue your goals. in return, she would be marrying a good man, who can provide her with more of her desires than any viable prospect in her home nation ever could.

obviously there's a financial hurdle you'd need to negotiate, but that aside for now; it would be easier to do this online via foreign social media, but you could just as easily set off to some 2nd world country, and let your passport ranking do the luring.

and back to the financial aspect; a wife is a bestfriend for life, worthy of investment...and a second tax code has the potential to pay for the experience in no time.

licuid wrote:in return, she would be marrying a good man, who can provide her with more of her desires than any viable prospect in her home nation ever could.

Ah, the refreshing arrogance of "The West".

What you don't realize is that the same amount of money isn't worth as much everywhere. You may make more dollars a month than someone elsewhere by simply being a regular "poor person" in a richer country, but it doesn't make you or what you have to offer any more impressive. Besides, if you essentially want a mail-order bride, why not just order one. People prey on naive tourists with that kind of mentality, both online and offline.

hi there! in case you've found an answer, i'd also like to know how to get a boyfriend. it's handy that i like cats.

zeno wrote:

licuid wrote:in return, she would be marrying a good man, who can provide her with more of her desires than any viable prospect in her home nation ever could.

Ah, the refreshing arrogance of "The West".

What you don't realize is that the same amount of money isn't worth as much everywhere. You may make more dollars a month than someone elsewhere by simply being a regular "poor person" in a richer country, but it doesn't make you or what you have to offer any more impressive. Besides, if you essentially want a mail-order bride, why not just order one. People prey on naive tourists with that kind of mentality, both online and offline.

I appreciate how you took the comment, and agree with your comment of relativity, but i don't agree that i'm arrogant. if you're a regular poor person, my comment would probably not apply. i had imagined anyone able of getting on a plane 6 or 7 times, had a decent amount of disposable income.

the 2nd world country part was mostly to do with the language barrier benefit, and the better life is more about the basic standard of living, education system for children, healthcare, ability to travel with your/my passport, compassionate governments, access to benefits, inforced legal system, lack of corruption etc.

i apolagise for any offense i caused you.

i would be more cautious of a mail order bride than meeting someone independently. they seem willing to marry any man after a 1 hour date (ref: louis theroux documentary).

Please, you're killing me. Have you found a girlfriend yet?

naps wrote:Geting a girlfriend is only half the problem. At first it might be nice; the thrill of conquest, and of course the physical aspect, but if you're truly a schizoid, it won't be long before you're posting here about how to get rid of her.

As a severe Schizoid...to me, it has always seemed that most guys would tend to oversell the physical part and not really be thinking of the negatives involved with dating/relationships. They seem to accept a lot of hassle in return for physical reward. To me, it seems easier for someone who is heavily into the physical side of things to just arrange a friends with benefits scenario.

But hey..what do I know? I can't even really begin to speak for a non-severe Schizoid.

I Dream 5 wrote:it has always seemed that most guys would tend to oversell the physical part and not really be thinking of the negatives involved with dating/relationships

It is incredibly common, especially if you're someone who hasn't ever actually been in the quagmire of such things. It's also what society and the media tends to tell them the world is like to some degree or another a lot of the time. Biology certainly doesn't hurt it in most peoples cases.