I like to analyse and think about society and people.
Things like "how does the interactions work? Why do people seek it? Why should I seek it?
What's the point of parties? Why do people get so excited about just the idea of going to a party?"
Today I was thinking about it, about how I can't get into the way that most interactions and conversations works.
To me, talking with someone is about having some interest in common, or some interest about what the other person can say to you, and what you can say to him/her. It's about some curiosity about the other person and some desire to tell the other person more about your life, opinions, etc. Though I'd say that most interactions seems to be (unconsciously) more about "I want you to know me, or something about me, and maybe so you can like me and/or help me".
Or else, not to know you, but the image you want people to have of you.
Anyway, it seems to be an activity that generates positive feelings in their brains, otherwise people wouldn't seek it so much. But I just can't feel this same thing.
When I'm around people, I have no interest in having conversations, and whenever I ask something about them or make some comments about what they said, it's very generic and superficial. I'm just pretending I care.
And I can't feel any positive response in my brain. I would rather be reading something alone, or painting, or just walking by myself.
BUT, I need people to achieve some goals in life, just like having an active sexual life. That's my only motivation to still seek some company, but my lack of genuine interest for people and their company and maybe a lack of social skills keeps me away from this goal.
I wouldn't be here questioning all these things if I could magically make a sex addict woman appear naked on my bed.
Now I would like to read your thoughts about interactions, interest for people, etc.
Are you ok about pretending you care about them, if it's needed to achieve something you want? And can you pretend so well that you seems to be completely "normal"?
If so, how did you get those skills?
Or if you decided to just live and accept your life as a lone person, how do you deal with the fact that maybe you'll need people to achieve some goals?