My first post on this forum ^ ^ Still not 100% sure if I am hfa or schizoid, I am lacking some symptoms of hfa and my psychiatrist unofficially commented that I fit schizoid criteria well.
It's hard for me to handle one on one scenarios especially when the person does not already know what kind of a person I am (I have like 2 people in the world other than my parents who know me well enough lol). Routine conversations and business/academic talks are fine, but occasionally the expectation extends beyond just dry business (even in business personal charm is a thing?). And I hate hate hate when I have to try really hard and awkwardly to cover my flat affection so I do not frighten away the person, or make he/she thinks I am a weirdo (well the fact is that in a way, I AM). I hate to let the person recognize that I can't get myself become interested in what he/she is talking about, since what I am truly interested about is the utility of a friendship, and it take great effort to come up with appropriate comments/expressions - when I sense the person can get my sarcasm I'll use that to get around my lack of empath; but when this doesn't work, usually things won't go so well.
Generally it seems I have nearly no other people's sort of in-built, natural and proactive reactions. I can only mirror what I see from them.
Do any of you struggle with those and how do you cope with it?