NoFeelings wrote:There's this great spanish psychologist and also a schizoid himself.
I read him 6 years ago, and i'd like to share, it was very instructive for me back then, and i guide my life since then based on it.
He has a 3 step must do for any schizoid to survive well:
1) SELF-KNOWLEDGE OF THE SITUATION AND DETAILS OF THE SCHIZOID PERSONALITY etc...
2) HAVE YOUR OWN SOURCES OF MONEY
3) CONTROL WELL YOUR SOCIABILITY.
this third one is more like this:
try to have a decent network of people but be careful to not open too much. have some interaction. it is necessary or at least it is important. but not so much.
in other words:
read a lot about schizoid. and about psychology in general. i would also add that it is important to read books teaching how to deal with people. such as this one: http://www.amazon.com/Judo-Words-Intell ... 1853435325
This is a handbook for verbal self-defence. It describes the techniques for protecting and defending oneself effectively in challenging communication situations, and how to shorten hostile interchanges, and to stop provocations. It gives constructive alternatives to being tongue-tied and feeling powerles in the face of aggression, teaches how to shorten angry interchanges and how to gracefully exit an argument, how to give a verbal riposte without getting emotionally too involved, and how to build an invisible mental "shield" that serves to protect our integrity.
and books like how to deal with a stupid boss. how to deal with hard headed persons. etc. those books are nice for us, who have difficult time at relating with people.
work and study hard in order to be good at something to have your own money.
this is simple.
obviously, try to chose something u rejoice and will have solid opportunities.
athwart wrote:Everybody should work to have their own sources of money. I have no respect for people who can work, but choose to rely on others.
I'm not a dick though. If you need help from welfare or charity due to some unforseen circumstance, OK. But, when you choose to be weak and rely on your friends and family for money, I can respect that.
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