Worst bestfriend award should go to me!

Alright so here's the situation I have been best-friends with this girl for years like since I was about 5 years old. Well she is dating this guy and they have been on and off for years. Well they have been together for about a year this round. He was her first everything and then one day I was at a bonfire completely plastered and we fooled around. It was a first time for both of us and she forgave us because it was a drunken mistake. Then about a week ago I was house sitting my Bishops house and I threw a small party. I was even more plastered than last time and we got pretty close to having sex, if I hadn't sobered up about ten minutes later it all would have been over. She says that she has forgiven, but she always hides her family and she broke up with her boyfriend...i don't know what to say anymore though.

It takes two to tango; I'm not sure why you need to be forgiven when both of you are/were involved.

Forgive the obvious question, but leaving alcohol aside do you actually like her in terms of dating? I've no idea how serious her relationship with her boyfriend was, but when you're young people come and go and it's just a part of growing up. We're all responsible for our own lives.

Wait I read it and I think you misunderstood....I did that stuff with her boyfriend. She has since broken up with him, but I feel bad for doing anything with him.

Oooh, I see. Yes, it does kind of read the other way (or either way, I guess!). Have you been in contact with him since this? And I suppose the same question applies from before, simply gender-changed - do you like him in terms of dating, or were they just passionate, drunken encounters? If she's your best friend then you have to decide what you really want, as unless she's incredibly giving and accepting I can't see her supporting you with that.

Again, although they've been dating for years you said they were very on and off, and you're all young (I presume); I'm not pretending the situation is ideal but 'first' or not they don't seem completely solid and whilst that's no excuse things could have been worse, especially as you didn't actually have sex. Yes, there's still trust issues and I'm not pretending that's not a big deal either but you stopped yourself and that's something. Since they were drunken encounters (and since you didn't actually have sex) they may very well get back together; it's too early to tell right now, presumably? In either instance I suspect she needs a little space to think things through.

If they hook back up you need to respect that and perhaps distance yourself when they present themselves as a couple. I don't know if they tended to do their own thing much of the time or were almost always together, but it would be too awkward any other way. If they don't hook back up then it's still not really a good idea to see him again (if you don't actually want a relationship), and it goes without saying you need to monitor how much alcohol you drink; it affects everybody in different ways but they usually all end in trouble!

Try not to feel too bad - you're young and enjoying life. You said she's forgiven you (twice!) which must show a strong friendship, and there's no guarantee they won't get back together again in X amount of time, if they're meant to be. Chalk it up to a life experience and try and move past it. Life is all about learning as well as living.

Thanks...I guess I just feel awful. I think he is hot and we flirt occasionally, but I would never date him just because he was with my best friend. Even if they broke up we would never get together. I just feel awful because it was twice and even though it was a drunken mistake I still chose to do it. I wanted it at that moment. She says she forgives me, but I feel like she doesn't really at least not all the way. yuh know? Thank you for the advice and comment